He is not religious at all, so that goes out the window. Everytime we go out he doesn't try to get with any girls when all my other friends do. Like I know he watches porn and stuff with chicks but its just like sex is not a priority to him. He's not a bad looking dude either, like he could get some if he tried, he just doesn't. Everyone busts on him for it behind his back and calls him a fag. What do you think is his problem or do you know anyone like this?
2006-06-13 06:36:38 · 27 answers · asked by LL Cool J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i feel sooooo sorry for him
2006-06-13 06:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by cherri 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Simple, send him to the bar and tell him to openly admit his virginity to as many women as possible. I know plenty of women who will sleep with someone simply because he's a virgin. You know he's clean. Admittedly though he's pushing women away for some reason. Could be any number of things. Maybe he feels odd. To little info to accurately analyze however I have always found that when I'm in a slump it's because I do it myself. We have to admit we need or want something before we can accept and possess it. Hope this helps. Here's one more suggestion. Ask the question "How many people are over 25 and still a virgin?". Or something along those lines. Then forward the results to him. I'll bet you'd be surprised how many people are in a similar spot. If he doesn't feel alone the uptightness may subside a bit.
2016-03-27 02:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a number of people who, although not religious, still want to wait to find "the one" before having sex. That's not a bad thing. Maybe he's trying to focus on himself and his career before jumping into a relationship. It's what we all should do. If he is gay, what's the big deal? It doesn't mean he's going to try to hook-up with and all of your friends. Just relax and see what happens. I've noticed that people like that tend to get married very quickly after meeting someone. I have friend that was a virgin at 28 and was never interested in dating, he met this one woman and a month later they were married. They've been together about eight or nine years now.
2006-06-13 06:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is responsible. Sex shouldn't be a priority if that is the path he has chosen. Someone who hasn't had it may not crave it like those that have. I think those that wait experience it in a better light then having sex just for the sake of peer pressure. Only he knows and should never be criticized for it.
2006-06-13 06:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be, but maybe he is just being smart and not risking getting an unplanned pregnancy or an STD. Maybe he'd like to save that special act for his future wife. Good for him. I don't think he has a problem, I think you and your friends have a problem in that you do not respect his choice and opinion and think he is gay because of a choice to respect his own body. Yes, I have a friend who is not religious and she is not having sex until she is married because she wants to be respectful to the person she marries and give that act to that person only.
2006-06-13 06:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is just not interested in having casual sex. I personally applaud him. You don't have to be religious to not want to sleep around and get some STD or get someone you don't care about pregnant. I know several guys that are that way and they are far from gay. They just don't sleep around and your friends need to grow up if they are 25 and making fun of him for being smarter than all of them.
2006-06-13 06:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it means he's gay...is he a shy person?
Doesn't matter how good looking you are, if you don't have the balls to make a move, you're not gonna get any at all.
It could be just like you said, "it's not a priority to him" which at 25, is something to be commended, not ridiculed...especially by his friends.
And even if he IS gay, does that matter considering the friendship you two share?
2006-06-13 06:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he may not be gay just has very high personal standards. I give him three cheers for saving himself for the right woman.
Be friends before lovers. I feel people are too fast to jump into bed and that is why marriages and relationships don't work.
I think this sexually active generation needs to slow down and smell the roses.
2006-06-13 09:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is his personal choice whether or not he wants to have sex now, tomorrow or next year. Maybe he is scared because he has waited this long, and that makes him shy and reserved and it embrasses him when his friends bash him about it. Because yall have given him this stigma about him not having sex, he is prob so insecure about it he can't even approach a girl for fear of what she might think about him. Try and support your friend and the choices he has made for himself in his life, sometimes ppl aren't like you quick to jump into the sack with some chic, maybe he's waiting around for the perfect woman...men do it to, it's not unheard of...
2006-06-13 06:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend might just be a private person and is lying to yall point blank. just like my cousin she was all holyier than thou she had the religious front acted all disinterested in sex and all but as fate would have it i was dating her boyfriends brother and his brother always talked about him and his girl doin it all over md and it was her they worked toghther and got fired toghther bcause mgmnt caught them doin it in the freezer. as for your friend not getting any dosnt equal gay he maybe subconcious about his size or he maybe addicted to porn so average everyday females just dont excite him and hes prob desensitized his privates too bcause too much jerking off isnt good for you plus and i know you have thought this before you can get you there better than someone else can what ever the reason yall shouldnt worry hes doing somethin or hed hav blue balls and trust me you would know about that!
2006-06-13 06:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, not wanting sex with women doesn't mean he is gay. Wanting to have sex with men does.
second of all, will the fact that he is gay or straight effect your relationship? If it will, then I suggest you stop trying to answer this question.
2006-06-13 06:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by J K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋