Why do we break a relationship up when at the end they are all the same and require much work?

Answer 1

You are right all relationships require work, but not all of them are equal. Some people fit better together and as a result don't often find themselves 'working' it out, but 'living' through it . I have been through 3 serious relationships that did not work out but they have all been for different reasons.

Answer 2

There are 4 phases all relationships go through, and it is cyclic, the phases repeat and apply in different areas with the same people.

Those 4 phases are:

1) Infatuation or Attraction
2) Power struggle
3) Cooperation
4) Synergy

The first phase is often called the honeymoon. The second is where people make the most growth, but it is also the phase where most break-ups happen.

Breaking up in the second phases is like going to the gym, putting your workout clothes on, and then leaving before you lift any weights. You never get a chance to grow or get any benefits from the experience until you actually start to lift the weights.

So the reason people break-up is they are short sighted and they do not understand the 4 phases of relationships. They enjoy the first phase, but as soon as they start to "work" in the second phase they bail because they do not understand that completing the 2nd phase leads to the 3rd and 4th phases, which is where real relationship enjoyment occurs.

When someone bails during the 2nd phase then they never got the growth and they must repeat that struggle in their future relationship until they finally make the growth so that the issue doesn't come up any more.

Another common occurrence with people who don't understand the phases is they get to the 2nd phase of power struggle, and instead of breaking-up or growing-up, they just give-up. They remain in the relationship, but never progress through the power struggle phase. This results in all the people who are in miserable relationships.

If more people understood the 4 phases of relationships then people would stay together and end up being happier. This does not mean that all relationships would last forever, nor does it mean that everyone would be happy, but the numbers would be much higher then they are today.

Answer 3

Because everyone wants to feel the butterflies in the stomach, can't get enough of you feeling that comes with a new relationship. Women especially want that "happy-ever-after" feeling to last forever, but the reality is, it doesn't. However, what comes after can be even better with right person and the right attitude. Happiness in a relationship is not finding a person you can live with...it is finding a person you can't live without. Big red flag! If you think you can change someone, think again. You must love the whole person. People are not fixer-uppers. Just like a car needs the oil changed and the tires rotated to run properly, so does a relationship need care and maintenance to continue to be rewarding.

Answer 4

Because Human Beings are idealistic beings that live on "Hope". These are some quotes by famous men, which reflect the thoughts of man, as they always "hope" for better.



Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow them.

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.

Life without idealism is empty indeed. We just hope or starve to death

Answer 5

Remember people are always fascinated by what they do not know, when the know what you have and what you are you become useless. AND the search continues