i dont no whta to do????

Question

well i live with my dad and he never evens talk to me and he really has nothing to do with me and never even gives me money and i am only 14!! my mom does drugs and hasnt really been in my life cause she spends most of her life in jail!!! i feel like i have all these problems and i use to cut in myself cuz i would always get mad and i had no one to talk to and to go to but then i got help!! so then i started to drink and sneek out with boys and just get in all this trouble. but now i have noticed that i shouldnt do all that unless i wanted to end up like my mom. but now i dont no what to do !!! should i run away or just take care of myself and not have anyone!!! or what??? i need some advice please!!

Answer 1

i'm sorry to hear about your situation, my dad is in jail, for drugs. i'm 23 and on my own, but it still hurts. i used to hurt myself too when i was younger, but i too realized that i'm not going to get any where like that, so i learned to respect myself and to get the best out of life and i stoped hanging around the crowd of friends i was hanging around and i started worrying about my future, when you think about what kind of future you can have for yourself, it makes you think about what your doing now. as for your dad, have you tried talking to him? men arent very talkative when they have a problem too, and i'm sure its hard on him having his wife in and out of jail, and how to work and care for his daughter (you) too. so maybe you can try to talk to him and maybe you guys can work something out. and remember money isnt everything, you have food, clothes, a place to sleep....if you ran away, would you be able to have all of that? i'm sure your dad loves you very much, and if you ran away, he would be devistated, my friend ran away one time, and the week she was gone, police looked for her and her mom and dad were so scared something had happend to her. but that is so good you realized that your life and your future is worth way more than boys and drinking and getting in trouble. if you keep that attitude you will go so far in life and you will make many people happy, including yourself. good luck and keep your head up

Answer 2

Well......like many 14 year olds these days....(similar situation happened to me) you will have to grow up faster than other kids your age. You will have to start making some adult decisions. You will have to take care of yourself. Use your mom as your "guide of what not to do". You can be really sucuessful. You have so much life to live. in 2 years you will be able to get a job and start earning your own money. I am only 19 now and I am married and have two beautiful kids( 2 years and 2 weeks old) I have a pretty decent job that pays my bills and still allows me to have fun. My husband is wonderful and has a good job. This will be you someday. You won't end up all strung out on drugs. Just always remember to ask yourself a simple question when situations come up where your are asked to do drugs or have sex.......is this going to prevent me from being happy and living a wonderful life. You have many many years to "prep" yourself for life. Don't waste them setting you farther back. Find something you like to do that interests you like........writing stories or working out. When you get all stressed out ......go write a story or work out!!! It really does help and it makes you smarter and stronger!! then when you are 30 years old and you are wealthy and happy and have a good life. You will be able to look back on all of this and be happy.

Answer 3

I know things probably seem like they couldn't possibly be worse for you right now. Running away is not the answer. Most homeless people you see on the streets, started out as teenage runaways. Try to focus on what is important. Go to school, try to get good grades. Try to tell your father how you feel. Do you have any other family members you can lean on? Or even live with? At least you recognize your mistakes can lead your life down a road you don't want to go.

Running away is not the answer!

Answer 4

I'm so sorry you don't have anyone, but so Proud of you for trying to change. DO NOT RUN AWAY. EVEN IF YOU AND YOUR DAD DON'T TALK, IT'S SAFE THERE!!! ***Talk to your Dad***, men don't always know what to say or that you even need him. He might think everything is good with you and that you don't want him around. Tell Him tonight, don't wait!! If that doesn't go the way you want it to, call one of your teachers or one of your friends parents. They can help you, you could even go to your doctors office and ask a nurse what to do. They are there to help, and they have all sorts of numbers they can call. Maybe even signing up for Big Brothers and Big Sisters Program could help you out. Stay strong, being a teen is tough, but if you stay on the right track you can do anything you put your mind to.

Answer 5

I'm truly sorry about your situation and sorry that your parents are the way they are.
I think I would try to find another family member (better than your parents) like a grandparent or aunt or uncle to live with. If that isn't possible then you should get a job and work on getting your life together and improving yourself and throw it in their face when one day when you're better than them. Good luck in everything and NEVER GIVE UP! And when you have kids one day (not anytime soon!) always remember your childhood and do everything you can to make your childrens life better than what you had.

Answer 6

listen, I have been there, I see where you are coming from. Things might stink right but trust me, things do get better. If your dad is taking care of your needs (food, shelter, clothes) money is not everything. There are people out there to help with things like what you are going through. Try talking to your dad and tell him how it makes you feel, not yell. TALK ! Don't run away! Hang in there kid.

Answer 7

Please don't take this the wrong way but you need to seek counseling. Go to school and talk to a counselor, trust me they can help or contact your local AA group they can get you into a program just for teenagers, I know I went to my counselor at school (when I was in school, i'm 27 now) and she did me a world of good. I got into a local support group she showed me how to talk to may parents and I got better. With the support group I didn't feel so alone. And please don't let no one tell you that you shouldn't...you really need to talk to an adult face to face that you can trust and that you know!!!

Answer 8

im 14 and have about the same problem exept i dont cut myself or sneak out instead i stay in my room all the time and listen to music and think about what it will be like when i turn 18 i can move out and not have to deal with them anymore just hang in there and if you want to have someone to talk to you can talk to me my email address is [e-mail] and my instant massenger is the same if you want to add me.

Answer 9

well honey...i wud advice you to sit and have a sensible chat with your father bout why he's been neglecting you...maybe he needs someone to talk to too......n if u make the first effort he might open up and tell you things he's been bottling up inside.
But if your efforts are going to waste then i guess there must be some close frend or anyone who will be ready to help you.....start a part time job or something with their help and hang on to it till uve earned enuf and if possible...continur your education...im sure afford to leave your folks once u star earning on your own...hope u consider my advice...take care n god bless.

Answer 10

i think that u should go to the police. sincerely, if i were u i would go to the police or either go to a responsible family member.or another thing that u could do is go on teh internet and look @ websites that have hotlines. so you can call and they will give you advice. good luck.