About 2 months ago i was walking home from my friends house. A man grabbed me and i was raped. I went to the doctor and i was fine. But im pregnant with his child. I was a virgin before this even had happened. Im 16.....what should i do...i went the baby because its MY baby...and yet i dont because its HIS baby....but i can ttake this baby's life because of how it happened...PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2006-06-13 05:58:29 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First off i'm really sorry to hear that happened to you hun and i hope the guy that did it rots in jail.
OK, since i got that off my chest, i understand what it's like to be young and pregant, i was pregant at 17 and had my baby at age 18, it's a hard road, but please do not have an abotorion, it's not the child's fault that this happened. If you don't feel ready to care for him/her then maybe open adoption would be a good choice, that way you could pick the parents that will raise them and you can get a legally binding contract stateing that you will have visits with your child, that is what i did.
And if you wish to keep them and raise them then i truely wish you and them health and luck, i pray your parents would be willing to help you...but please, whatever you do, don't abort the child, they didn't ask for this to happen, give them the chance to live. The child can truly be a blessing in disguse, i know that me becomeing pregant saved my life in many ways...
I wish you luck babe, and if you need someone to talk to then you may im/e-mail me, because i know it's always nice to have someone there for you....
2006-06-13 06:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria Sparda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a writer, what ONE tip has been the most helpful for you? Don't edit during your first draft. I can tell you it has saved many of my ideas from ending up as a bunch of crumpled pieces of paper in the bin. =) 1) When you write, is there one thing that you always (mostly) remain conscious about, during any stage of writing? I don't think I understand that one, sorry. 2) Do you find humour coming to naturally when you write? Oh heavens, yes! It's annoying, actually, as I can't seem to turn the humour off even through the toughest scenes. It's an Austenfan thing. ;) 3) Have you ever searched for writing articles? If so, where and which ONE has been the most helpful? No, but I'm reading a couple of books on the writing process itself. One is an ARC that's not being sold yet, another is rather old but funny, and yet another is coming my way any day now. 4) What was your famous beginners mistake? Well, I'm still an amateur, so I guess all my mistakes are beginner's mistakes? Still, something I *think* I have left behind by now is an excess of description. I would go all Bulwer-Lytton on weather descriptions, and stuff. 5) What/whose work do you read for inspiration? Jane Austen when I need to remember that "less is more". Edith Wharton when I think I'm being too cheerful for my own good. Laurie Halse Anderson when I feel my characters are turning flaky on me. Any favorite book of mine when I *just* can't write and need to clear my head. You're welcome, darling! Thank *you* for the cool questions. +blows kisses+
2016-03-27 02:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what the other people have said about finding help and talking to a rape councilor. You ARE brave and unselfish for realizing that killing your baby isn't going to solve your problems. Some people say that you should have an abortion so you aren't reminded of the rape, but having an abortion isn't going to make the fact that you were raped or your memory of it go away... please remember that you don't want to take your baby's life.
If you don't feel like you can raise the baby on your own and don't have any family support adoption is a very good option. Please take care of your body and see a doctor. If you don't have family to help you there are clinics that can help you get the care you and the baby need.
Lastly, if you haven't already called the police do so. You can help them stop the monster that did this to you.
There's a warm hug coming your way, may it give you the strength to carry on.
2006-06-13 17:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by mamabirda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the baby is still a person , if I were you I would give that baby up for adoption to a family that has no bad tries to how it was made .. you will carry this around with you forever , every time you look at that child you will be reminded of what happen , if you feel you can get over that and you can be a good mom at 16teen , and leave your child hood behind you then keep it .. you are so young to have a child ,take it from me it is allot of hard work and your friends find new friends cause you are home taking care of your child .. you will be left behind .and you can never go back and be a teen ever again .. you have allot on your plate .. talk to your mom about this ..when you become a wife and have gotten soem thing out of life you can have children when you are ready .
2006-06-13 06:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you. This is only a decision that you can make with help from a professional therapist or medical doctor. Also, discuss the matter with those close to you if possible, like you mom, sister, a best friend-people you can trust to listen and help you. If you feel abortion is not right for you, yet you can't handle knowing who the father is, yet you want the baby because its yours, the only alternative may be adoption. You sound like a caring, thoughtful and intelligent young woman who deserves a chance to continue a once normal life. Again, please consider speaking with professionals. (Also, if this man was caught and the police are aware of the situation, their social councillors and resources should be made available to you.) Take care.
2006-06-13 06:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by rigbyelinor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've met people that have been in similar situations as you. Although I am not an advocate of abortion, I'm not going to tell you what you should believe on the subject. Nevertheless, there are many families in the United States alone that aren't able to have children. These people, I am sure, would be more than greatful to raise your child as their own. They would give your baby the life that he or she deserves. Not only that, you would still be involved in your child's life as much as you want. The only thing that would change is the legal parents would be other people that you actually have some hand in choosing. This is my opinion and I have seen it work for others in your same perdicament. I hope this helps in some way.
2006-06-13 06:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm very sorry that this happend to you. I am pro choice becasue I believe that a woman has a right to choose. You are 16 and that is very young to have a child. You need to finish school and with a child that would be very hard. Plus this child would always remind you of that terrible event that happened to you when you were 16. Even if you choose to put it up for adoption it would be a strange situaion for the child. They would end up finding out that their father is a rapist and their mother was a a poor 16 year old victim. Its a very hard call to make but I do suggest an abortion. Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-13 06:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened to you. I really don't have an answer for you but a few comments. If you want this baby keep it, it will be hard to raise this baby on your own, but the support from your friends and family will help you through what happend. Remember its not the baby's fault, but the monster that raped you. Or you can have the baby and give it up for adoption, there are many families looking for a baby to love.
What ever you decide God will Bless you!!
2006-06-13 06:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you answered your own question. Only you can make the decision to keep the baby or give it up or have it removed. You have to do what feels right to you. Dont let anyone else influence your decision. You and only you will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life. I am SORRY that you were raped! That is a terrible thing to go through. I am speaking from experience. I hope all works out for you. If you ever want to talk you can email me at: feelin_froggy51971@yahoo.com
2006-06-13 06:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by feelin_froggy51971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firts of all i'm sorry to hear that this happen to you. I wish there was something i could say to comfort you. I feel you on how you want the baby. That beautiful baby is part of you. Now i dont know if you believe in god but your baby is a precious gift from heaven. I know alot of people might think otherwise but you are the only one that can make that decision. Just remember that if you keep your baby that he/she will always be very special.
2006-06-13 06:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by lvaldez930 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋