for a while now i really wanted to get back in contact with a guy i knew in school a few years back but i wasnt quite ready so i put everything on hold.the problem now is that the more i think about him,the more i think about all the good memories but the bad ones also,meaning just little stupid immature things he did to try to make me angry when he wanted attention.i feel torn because im confused about what to do andi dont want to regret not contacting him but at the same time i dont want to regret doing it either.someone please help me with this im very confused.
2006-06-13 05:53:06 · 10 answers · asked by jelisa3120 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
CONTACT HIM! As much as you may not think it is important you will regret your own actions of NOT calling/writing/emailing, whatever method you choose, than his reaction. You are in control of you, not him. I have been in the same situation. I have a gentleman who made a tremendous impact on my life and I kind of left him high and dry. I simply want to hear his voice and see who we have become in comparison. I dont worry about MY behavior because I will approach with respect and caution and no matter what I say or do, I am in no way responsible for his behavior/reaction. Besides, ALWAYS leave room for someone to surprise you. He/She may be missing you too.
If you know how to contact this person, you had better do it before it is too late, I cant find my friend and my chances of saying any hello are short lived! Go for it. Just be nice about it.
When talking to people later in years in their life they complain about not doing something...They are referring to their actions, NOT the actions of others. Your biggest regret will be that YOU DIDNT DO SOMETHING! GO FOR IT! At lest then you'll have the chance to say your peace or whatever you intent is and make friends again or hang up and know where you stand. Its better to know! GO FOR IT!
2006-06-13 06:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by adarlin75 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. About 2 years ago I felt the same way about an old high school ex. I thought about it like you did, weighed the options of how I would feel. I regret doing it b/c I realized how miserable a person she was/is.
2006-06-13 12:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him, there's no harm in calling him to see how he's been doing. Just a very casual, easy going conversation and see where it goes from there.
Take one step at a time and don't stress yourself out about it. If he's not interested or taken already, there's plenty of other guys out there looking for a great woman.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 12:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change a lot after two years be care full in what you do.I would hate it if you were to e-mail me saying that I gave you bad advice.I'm not the sharpest pencil in the drawer but I've been around for a long time and I'm wise.
2006-06-13 13:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to make a list of pros and cons of contacting him. If you do contact him remember that he is a completely different person now then who he was in high school, and you're a different person too. Best of luck.
2006-06-13 12:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen sit down and really think about all the good things you all did together and the bad things to then if the good outways the bad then it might not be a good decision after all okay e-mail me if you need help Kay.
2006-06-13 12:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't. There are so many people in this world! You can make some great new friends. You shouldn't dwell on old friends. Especially if they did you wrong...
2006-06-13 12:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back to him and talk to him but do not submit yourself
2006-06-13 13:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by ag_iitkgp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him and move on. it didn't work then and he tried to make you angry - that isn't right....find someone who will love you back
2006-06-13 12:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by pianoshopgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat ever you decide i hope you make good choices.
2006-06-13 12:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by Zia2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋