i am 47 he is 50 we have lived together for 7 years i am ready for marriage have been for 3 years hes not!
2006-06-13 05:41:47 · 26 answers · asked by mississippi queen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, 7 years is too long. If you haven't got a proposal by now, you might as well give up. Why should he pay when you give it away for free?
2006-06-13 05:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 7 years is too long. General rule of thumb----if you don't have a committment in 2 years, you're not going to get one. On the other hand, in many states, if you've lived together for 7 years, you do, in fact, have a "common law" marriage. So if you were to break up, you might have a claim to "community property," just as if there were a ring on your finger.
2006-06-13 12:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Allen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 year wait is obviously too long if you have wanted it for 3. The question to ask is what will marriage bring that you don't already have in your relationship. To some, its just a piece of paper to others its a death sentence of change that often works against guys interests
2006-06-13 12:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too long. Get a clue that its not going to happen.
If it doesnt happen within 2 or 3 years, its not gonna happen.
I am 42 and she is 57. I was married for 15 years she has never been married. She thinks that marraige is wonderful only because she has never been married. I am quite happy living together without being married. If she pushes it then she will be pushing herself right out the door.
Bottom line: Be happy with what you have now. Stop trying to stress over something thats not going to happen.
2006-06-13 12:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by creskin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then something is seriously wrong if you wait for seven years for a marriage proposal. He probably has commitment issues. Next time I think you should set a date when it is suitable for the marriage proposal and if he doesn't then it's time to move on. There is no sense in him taking up your time and your love if he's not going to make it permanent. It may be hard, but it's what needs to be done.
2006-06-13 12:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are both old now and why do you need marriage? After seven years he has obviously shown his commitment to you so perhaps you should be happy with that. Marriage is not required for anything really due to the new laws regarding Domestic Partners and you can still get benefits etc. like the gays do without being married.
2006-06-13 12:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by skifaster6 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seven years, huh? and NO marriage proposal? He is NEVER going to, and has no intentions of doing it , EVER! He is "getting the milk for free, why buy the cow?" He has all the benefits of marriage, with no liabilities whatsoever. I'm not being "flippant" about it, but if marriage is what you want, you need to look elsewhere. It ain't happening there!
2006-06-13 12:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you waited too long
It's time to put the pressure on him.
Quit waiting. Propose to him. (Tell him it's Sadie Hawkins day)
If he rejects your proposal move out.
If he lets you go he'll be sorry.
It's not easy for a 50 year old man to find a good woman.
Good luck getting the dude kick-started.
2006-06-13 12:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is WAY too long to wait around to get married! There has got to be a reason he hasn't poped the question yet. You need to look into that. OR... it's just that it's too expensive right now or some people are just afraid to get married b/c of a past personal experience.
2006-06-13 12:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by brnzdbeauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh yeah! 7 years? my goodness most women would have left after maybe 3. Why isn't he ready, does he not think your the one? If not what are you waiting around for woman, life is too short. Get going.
2006-06-13 12:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋