how would you feel and what would you do if your husband said that you have never turned him on and had to watch porn before he could even have sex with you?
2006-06-13 05:30:00 · 19 answers · asked by crissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any husband that would say that to their wife should not be married. Porn is an addiction just like anything else. The both of you need to go to therapy together and fix this problem. Verbal abuse is just as bad as the physical. Don't let his problem get you down. Either seek professional help to fix this or move on. There is a man out there that will love you no matter what. Those are the ones to hold on to.
2006-06-13 05:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Crissy, at first I would agree with what the others have said, but I would really like to know your ages, how long you've been married and if he is taking any medications. Are you or your husband overweight? I would wonder about an affair, too. But porn is an addiction. What he sees with those slim, beautiful bodies is not reality. How much does he drink? Is he unable to get an erection and wants to blame you? I truly have no answer, but hopefully I have given you something to think about? Porn, alcohol, medications and self-esteem have a lot to do with sexual matters. And remember, sex is a "mind" thing, not genital.
2006-06-13 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My soon to be ex husband told me that he took Viagra as a convenience to me, he didn't need it on his own when he watched porno.
To try to salvage things, I even tried watching his porno with him. But it was so mechanical, and the actors put down women so much (at least the ones he picked), it was a turn off for me.
This was one part of a really long list of cruel things he said to me, and things like that are what ultimately lead to the death of our marriage.
2006-06-13 12:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would question whether or not he's still worth being with, and have you let yourself get out of shape, because I truly feel that whatever attracted some one to you in the first place should be maintained throughout the relationship, because that is what attracted him to you in the first place. If that is not the case discuss with him what he wants from you, and as long as it's nothing detrimental, do it if you feel he's worth it. If he's being a complete jerk, and his actions are not warranted, you may need to consider counseling. There are books out there on how to seduce your mate. Good luck!
2006-06-13 12:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by jusb4dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken heart feel rejected. After cry like a baby i'll call marriage counselor for help.
2006-06-13 12:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by BelleVie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him in a heartbeat. Obviously the marriage was a lie and he didn't love or respect me enough to be honest. I wouldn't waste any time kicking him out.
2006-06-13 12:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first i would be so crushed and hurt and would probably cry my self to sleep every night. then phase 2, i would get angry and mad, excercise like everyday, get dressed upeveryday and go out and get all the positive attention from every other man out there that i could turn on!! then rub it in his face and leave him for someone bigger and better then him!!!
2006-06-13 12:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then ask him why he married you in the first place. If your not doing anything for him sexually why is he still with you? Id ask him to go with you to sex therapy and ask him what you need to do to help fix the situation.
2006-06-13 12:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likely he is addicted to pornagraphy. it was probably there before you got married. he needs to get help. until he gets help (or even realizes he has an addiction) you have got to establish some health boundaries re: his addiction. if you say you are going to do something STICK TO YOUR GUNS and follow through.
if he truly cares for you and your marriage, he will do whats required to save it!
2006-06-13 13:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crissy, please have some respect for yourself, because clearly he has none for you. It is time you throw him out. Being turned on from by a women in marriage has little to do with looks and all to do with love. It is time you move on.
2006-06-13 15:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by elb366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋