I am entering high school next year and I have a ??

Question

i'm afraid that my friends and I are going to start drifting apart since we wont have almost any classes together. We've been friends since the fifth grade and we have never gotten into any major fights about anything and I love them both to death!! What can I do to help us from becoming distant?

Answer 1

Spend the whole summer with them and I've my best friend and I were drifting a part then I moved but then after a year it was like we were back in pre k mate.

Answer 2

Sometimes at your age, or any age, people do start to drift apart if they've found other interests to keep them occupied. You can, however, try to assure this doesn't happen to you by making time for each other. If you aren't naturally thrown together on a regular basis, this is especially important to do. In high school, you all will be making new friends, but this doesn't mean you have to give up your old friends. Old friendships are the best. Those people tend to love you for what you are, and they know pretty much everything about you--kinda like family. You have to make sure to take an interest in all the new things the others are doing, even if you aren't doing it yourself. Keep the lines of communication open. Call regularly and plan outings for just "you guys". Also plan outings where everybody can bring their new friends so everybody can get to know each other.

Answer 3

Don't worry. Having so many classes apart will just give you more to talk about. If you have lunch at the same time (my high school did lunches in shifts, I don't know if yours does) then you can sit and gossip about all the new people you've met. If you don't have lunch you can still get together before and after school. Also, you all might meet new friends to bring into your old group of friends. Some of my best friends now are my best friends old high school classmates that I met through her. Have a great time!

Answer 4

u will have plenty of time in between classes, after classes to be with your friends. they might not be in the same class time as yours but they might be taking the same class e.g. history with another teacher. usually homeworks and reading assigments are consistent amongst teachers so you could still work together with them on those. and then there r always weekends, plus a little time away from old friends will help your transition into college. the least of your worries should be your friends drifting apart, if managed by both parties well then high school will bring you and your friends closer than before as you realise each other's independence and potential

Answer 5

i had this same problem when i went to a different high school than my best friends. we made a deal that we would let 2 weeks go by without hanging out. you can also pass notes around, or get a blank notebook and everyone take turns writing in it and pass that around instead. there's a book called "the notebook girls" that was exactly that. 4 best friends pass around a notebook to stay close and keep each other updated. check it out. also keep in mind that youre not the same person you were in 5th grade, dont be afraid to make new friends because youre scared about losing the ones you have now! i have 2 best friends, one i've known since kindergarten and one i met 3 years ago and we get along soooo well. keep an open mind and good luck!!

Answer 6

Well everyone drifts apart and you may find that in High School you find a lot of new friends that like the same things as you. But if your set on keeping those friends then you should eat lunch with them and try and spend time with them on weekends when you can

Answer 7

My 2 best friends and I had "slam books." (and there may be other ways of doing this, but this is what we did and what we called it)

We had three notebooks, and we always had one of them with us. When we saw eachother in the hall, we'd swap these notebooks. When we had time during classes, study hall, whatever, we'd "journal" in them. Sometimes we'd direct something towards a particular person, but most of the time, either of the other two could respond.

We'd also schedule at least one afternoon each week at either Burger King or our favorite pizza place.

You'll also make new friends, but if you can keep these friendships going into adulthood, you'll be truly blessed! One of them I haven't heard from since the early 90s (our 20th reunion is next year) the other one I had dinner with last Saturday, and we do some volunteering together.

Answer 8

U cant only time will tell and the strength of your bond with your friends. Even though u dont have the same classes the challenge comes when u meet new people. We tend to cling to things that are different. Expand try new friends you will learn more. U always want to be around people u can learn from, people that can make u a better u. I hope u understand if u dont now u will later.Stay away from trouble listen to the first warning and u will get them

Answer 9

You can go out of your way to stay in touch [email, myspace, facebook, hi5, texting, IMing].

You can hang out together, join clubs together, join sports together, or sign up for similar classes.

Another thing to think about: I look back at a picture of my "friends" from 8th grade, and here is what I think: One I hate, another few I never talk to, and even my best friend and I hardly ever talk anymore [though we still are close when we do].

Another thing to think about: I think about the girls I disliked in 8th grade [the ones that were new, and better than me at some things]. I couldn't stand them then, and now they are my closest friends, in fact the one girl I wished would just go back to her old school is now my new best friend.

Four more years and growing up changes things. This can be a hard time, but a good one too. You can learn who is really important to you, and also make new friends. All I have to say about the old friends, is that it can be real hard work to stay friends sometimes, and you have to be willing to put forth the effort.

Good luck in HS!

Answer 10

Do things together right after school. Play the same sports. You still have lunch and some classes that can be scheduled together. The weekends can be planned together. Dont worry about it.....you will not become distant.