i want to get my ears pierced, but how can i convince my mom to let me?

Question

I want to get my ears pierced for the first time, but my mom has not let me. She is always worried about me getting an infection, and she is worried about me being allergic to the metals, and she doesnt want me to get them ripped out. I wanted to get it done before school starts next year (sept), but i need some good ideas to help me convince her. I typed a letter on my computer telling her the facts and my reasons very nicely sorted out instead of begging, and i plan to give it to her in a few weeks. Is there any other ways to convince her? Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

You have to convince your mom that you have done your research and are serious about this. Present her with a list of places and their reputation with the better business bureau as well as a list of prices. Make sure you stay with something small and tasteful.

Answer 2

I can understand where your mom is coming from. I'm a mom too and those things are a very real possibility. I've known lots of girls who got infections from the metal, got a sweater stuck on an earring and had it ripped out, and other such unpleasant things. The thing I would want to know is, how do you treat your belongings? Do you put your things away? Do you lose the jewelry you have now? Do you keep your room neat? Are you responsible? Can your mom trust you? Do you have a good relationship with her? Do you do what you're told...the first time? Do you get your chores done without being told? If you honestly do all these things, then point these things out to your mom. Tell her that you are a responsible young lady. Maybe suggest that this would be a great birthday present. Go to the place where you want to get your piercing and see if there's some literature you can take home for your mom to read. Once she sees that they use good metal, in a sterile setting, she might reconsider her thoughts. If you've shown her that you're going about this whole idea in an adult manner, without whining, she might surprise you. And see if there's a magic age where she would reconsider allowing you to get this done. Maybe you're too young, in her eyes. I think, if you're 14...and very responsible...I would see no problem allowing you to get your ears pierced. When my own daughter was 14, I told her she could do so if she wanted to. But, she chose not to. She wasn't a girly girl, and still isn't. I didn't get mine pierced until I was almost 30 (I was afraid it would hurt...and it did!). Show your mom that you have considered her concerns and have found a safe place to get it done. This will show her that you're not just doing something without thinking about it. Parents like it when their kids do their homework. Do yours. If it doesn't happen, take it like a woman...and don't whine. Mom just might want you to wait until she thinks you can handle it. And for heavens' sake, don't just go an get it done. That just shows mom that she was right and you can't be trusted. It will drive a wedge in your relationship that can be avoided. If she says no, just say "yes mom" and leave it alone...until your birthday, or Christmas, or a really good report card! Just ask "Mom, can I get my ears pierced for....." and fill in the occasion. If she says no, just say "okay" and walk away. This will eventually make her understand that you are handling this very well and she'll have to see that you're being great about it. This actually works for just about anything. Parents don't like arguing and whining. It shows that you're still a little girl, even though you'll always be their "little girl". Think about this and see what you can do to show them your maturity. <*)))><

Answer 3

Well i don't know how old you are but your parents seem like mine, they worry all the time! But i got my ears piecrced when I was about 7mths old. Thats how i personally think it should be. One thing, if you get them done, don't complain about it hurting or the slim chance they do get infected cause they you will here "I told you so" but tell you mom you are old enough to make a wise decision about this and you seem to be doing it in a mature way... You only live once and you gotta take chances in your life! Good luck

Answer 4

Next time you're in a department store (like WalMart), or a jewelry store, have the person that does the piercing talk to her and explain to her that it IS SAFE.

I got mine pierced when I was 4 weeks old - yep 4 weeks...I'm 35 and have had ZERO problems...

Good luck sweetie, Marilyn

Answer 5

Well, how old are you? I got mine done before I was even one (obviously my moms idea).. just let her know it's not dangerous and little kids get it done all the time with no problem. My nephew just got his ear peirced and he's not even 5 yet. He didn't have a problem. Just tell her that she can pick the right place and everything...

Answer 6

Take her to piercing shops where they do so and she can see how easy it is. Maybe, you can also ask her to join you so that you guys can be a team. Its just that she is concerned about you getting hurt. She will be ok if she is with you or sees it getting done for others.

Answer 7

Tell her you are aware of the infection, and you are willing to take all the precautions to prevent and treat yourself if it does. My mom let me wait till i was 13,, but of course they got infected, so i let them grow over, it wasn't till i was 16 again till i had earrings. So be aware, cuz infections will probably happen..

Answer 8

my question is: how old are you? it sounds like you have a nice presentation prepared...don't forget to mention that as long as you clean them several times a day (as you promise you will) that the chance of infection is VERY minimal. hope this helps, but it sounds like you've already got a good foundation! good luck!

Answer 9

tell her you can get tested for metal allergies and then take the tests and about ripping them out tell her you'll get studs or small hoops

Answer 10

Threaten to pierce your tongue first and then suggest piercing your ears as a compromise.