We have had issues w/me drinking... His meth use, dishonesty & the 19yr old that worked for us , that he has visited, IMs ,TXTs & speaks to... practically daily. Like, "finishes taking care of me"...& according to his Cingular bill is immediately on the phone or whatever with her. This is eating me up. I am not at our home for the time being, because I don't want stress, anger... around our 16yr old son. He is a great kid, smart, knows to a certain extent whats up, but still a kid. We r not final yet, but I have no hope or desire of reconciling, neither does he. But I still keep searching for more proof, evidence whatever... HELP
2006-06-13 04:44:29 · 9 answers · asked by kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The more you look for stuff the more you are going to hurt. He's not going to care about what you find, it will just make you feel like crap.
The heck with him and move on.
2006-06-13 06:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by limbomom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off you both suffer from addictions that will eventually hurt the kid. Second if you guys are having these problems did it ever occur to you that you using is causing them How do you guys act when you are not using. Have either of you ever heard of a twelve step program where you live life one day at a time. Maybe before you guys divorce is final try all outs like AA and NA meetings try twelve step meetings you guys have to be totally clean to work at any issues. I know I'm coming up on three yrs. clean myself. Then the problem is not only the using it's you guys in itself. Once you put down the drug you have to do some internal work and it doesn't happen over night it takes time!
I suggest you try that before the divorce is final.
2006-06-13 04:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW you're hurting, and somehow you feel that if you find out all there is to know, you will not hurt as much, or feel less guilty about the divorce. Let it go, Sweetheart, you have suffered enough already. Get yourself off alcohol, and raise your son the best you can, like all parents do, myself included. Leave him, and his problems behind you,and move on in your life. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 05:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More proof? More evidence? Of what? At this point, who cares? You said you don't have want or hope of reconciling, so why bother?
If you want to stop this behavior, then stop. If he is a meth addict, it will catch up with him. If he is sleeping with other meth addicts, he is going to catch a sexually transmitted disease, and his promiscuity will catch up with him, too.
If you are really ready to move on, then do just that. If you aren't, then get him into rehab and work on your marriage.
2006-06-13 04:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Eileen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you need to be punished any further...it can only cause heart ache to discover more of his "secret life", your better off not knowing and not digging any further.
2006-06-13 04:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best way is to say thats his life and I am no longer a part of it.
2006-06-13 08:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS OVER. MOVE ON. PUT THAT ENERGY TO USE ON A JOB, GETTING A NEW LIFE, BEING HAPPY.....THE METH WILL DESTROY EVERYTHING IN ITS PATH. SO DONT GO THAT ROUTE.
2006-06-13 04:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on what kinda relationship you rely wont,then find it.you wont have time thinking,about the relationship.that just ended.your happens is what you need.so go and get it paul.
2006-06-13 05:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by lonely1still 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its over
get another good guy, and let the jerk go! he's Obviously stupid and he doesn't deserve you
2006-06-13 04:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋