My wife is boring in bed. She won't do anything new and I crave some variety. What should I do?

Question

I have been married for less then a year and my wife has become very boring in bed. Before we were engaged I had sex with plenty of different women and I crave that variety. What should I do?

Answer 1

I think the best thing to do is sit down with her and talk with her. Found out what she would like to do to you or have done to her. You never know she may want more then you think. Pushing her is not going to help. This is the same thing that happened with Hubby and I. He allowed me to open up about sex and was understand about what I wanted. Our relationship is so much better. Give her some of the control of your sex life and you may just find your own little purring kitty cat. Keep the communication open for each other and you will be just fine.

Answer 2

Well David to get the "Oh my god YES!" back try some serious four play! Don't turn to porn watching with her bad move, besides it's all fake! Try this for example, when you see her in the kitchen come up behind her and softly kiss her on the base of neck, that is usually the spot that turns most woman on. Maybe some old time fashioned making out on the couch like as if you two were back in high school. The new position thing needs to come naturally without conversation. Make it happen especially while you are giving her a back massage while she is laying down on her stomach. Caress her, rub her and play with her. Whatever you do try to keep her on her stomach. Maybe deep down she is the type of woman who loves it when the man is control and she is just too shy to admit it until the act is done! Try it I am certain she will give in! Good Luck!

Answer 3

The first thing you need to ask yourself is are you happy with your relationship in general,if you are then you should definitely try to work on things, especially since its ony been a year.Marriage is a life long commitment you should have looked at all the aspects of it before hand.Its not always going to be that fun filled cant wait to get you home type of relationship especially when you are living together and sharing responsibility.The thing is,is that marriage is about so much more then sex,having a good sexual partner is great but its about much more believe me see if you can reconnect with her on a different level there are many ways that you could really find yourself into your wife .Remember sex is not just physical for one try to change it up a little get into her more emotionally,trust me she will surprise you if you give it a chance.Women respond to emotion work it in the right way and you wont believe what doors you will open between yourselves.

Answer 4

Talk to Your Wife, not other People. If My Husband wrote something like this, and I found out, He wouldn't have to worry about anything being boring anymore. Think about it, do You want Your Wife complaining about You on line, or would You rather have her talk to You?

Answer 5

Try breaking the ice. Ask her to try different things, but don't push her to do it. Be sweet and ask her what she wants to do. If it's the same old thing, try to spice it up a little with a twist, like maybe whispering dirty things in her ear that you will do to her if she does ___ to you... so and so. I'm not sure what it is she does already, but be patient with her- she may be shy. Take your time and you may want to talk to her about it to see why she is not willing to do certain things.

Answer 6

you two need to talk I don't know if I will tell her about the other women. but you to need to talk often when women sex drive changes it has nothing to do with sex, but the relationship. So get to talking. If it is the variety of women hat you still feel you need then maybe you should talk to someone, men sex drive are usually affected by a mind set or life event, even a high sex drive but when it gets in the way with your relationships then it is a problem and problems need to be resolved.

Answer 7

So your bored because your not cheating on her anymore ? Didn't you realize she was boring before you put that ring on her finger ?? At this point the only thing you can do is talk to her. She cant decide if she wants to change unless she knows your unhappy.

Answer 8

Ask her to role play with you. From wigs to costumes to characters...can't get bored with that variety. And it's fun, too.

Answer 9

Talk to her, tell of some of the things you'd like to do.Try not to make her feel unworthy though. OR just try some new and different things with her see if you can get her creative juices flowing.

Answer 10

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