my husband wont let me get a job so i have no money. but i want my kids. please help me find out how to get them with no money.
2006-06-13 04:15:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get divorced and ask for custody and contribution for your kids.
Then call me
2006-06-13 04:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this exact position before. First, let me tell you that you must be patient. My husband would not let me work either. I put an ad in the local newspaper to watch children in my home. I made pretty decent money and I told him that I was doing it for my own spending money- to feel better about myself. I would spend some of it every week to support my stance, but then would save some too. I kept reminding him how nice it was to have my own money. Then, I "found something I really wanted." (freedom, but he did not know that). I told him that I was going to take on a job temporarily until I could get it- I really wanted it. And that's the rest of the story. When I got enough money to move out, that is exactly what I did. You just have to be really careful not to blow your cover. This part was the hard part- smooth sailing after that.
2006-06-13 04:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by texasgirl5454312 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is only one solution to this problem considering that you have no income what so ever. You would simply have to file for divorce. That is the only way to get out of a marriage. Being a legal assistant, I know that the court would grant custody to the mother simply because she is the caretaker, even though the father is the bread winner, he is not the one there with the children when need be. The court will consider giving the father joint custody depending on his schedule and if he fights for it.
2006-06-13 04:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Shya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so unhappy in your marriage and why are you wanting a divorce? Have you tried counseling and or marriage counseling yet?
If you have tried every option to save your marriage and there is no more saving or hope for it then talk to legal aid and you have to leave him and get on welfare so that they will help you with food and with the kids. You may also want help for housing as well and they may also even help you get divorced and find a job. I wish you the best and I am here if you need to talk... If your kids are young enough they can get WIC too. Do you live near a church ..... I know that churches have counselors too and they also have clothing places where you can get free clothes and help.
2006-06-13 04:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, if you are thinking about a divorce, I'd see an attorney way before you mentioned anything to your husband about it. It's best that you are prepared way in advance before he even has an inkling that it's coming. As for keeping the kids, you'll need a lawyers advice on that one, I'd think he'd have at least a right to joint custody unless he was abusive, etc.
2006-06-13 05:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Saskia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a very controlling person. Is he abusive in any other ways to your or your children? This does not mean just physical abuse, but also would include mental and emotional abuse as well. You may want to call a women's shelter or safe house for advice. If you do not know if you have one in your area, call your local police department for help. Allow trusted friends and family to know what you want to do. Someone may be able to help you in some way. Be safe.
2006-06-13 04:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Welfare
2006-06-13 04:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋