What are a good traits of a mother ?

Question

I have 3 children who have different needs and all of them wants my attention.I try so hard to give my all to them, i wish i were super mom.I love them and hope i can do better.Any good advice is much appreciated too.

Thank you for your answers.They are 8yrs old ,2 yrs old and 2months old respectively. The age gap does make it tricky as each still needs alot of attention.

Answer 1

Hey! being a mumma is the hardest job ever!
Congratulations on being a mum of three!

how old are your children?

you know what every child needs?

a mum that is there when they come home after school. not just an empty house and a spare key. kids feel secure when mum is there to greet them.

they need a mum who is encouraging. ask them what they want to do when they grow up, what hobbies they want to do now, or if they have one, how its going... encourage anything that is good, and teach them a better way for anything that is bad.

they need discipline. a weak person will be there own childs ruin. someone who is too passive will have brat children who grow up to be brat adults that sook with there friends and partners when they dont get there own way. but being to hard can take love away. u need to find a balance, where u are stern and direct, but still loving, and tell them WHY there in trouble, like "because doing that will cause such and such, which is bad and i dont want to see that happen to you, i love you.

kids want someone who treats them with respect. no teasing for fun, no "there just kids, they wont understand".... treat them like the little growing humans they are, answer questions, dont underestimate them.

they need someone to be there friend and there leader at the same time. you cant be just one. a friend parent, with nothing else, will see there kids getting sucked into all kinds of bad rubbish at school and beyond, coz they didnt have a guide, a leader to help. but just being there "parent", there guide, wont work either, coz they wont listen to someone who isnt even interested in them. like i said, ask lots of questions, get involved in what they are in to (if possible).

Know what they are watching, listening to in music, who they hang out with and where, what they do with there time. u dont need to be sus or pushy or in the middle of there lives all the time, but you need to know whats going on. if you dont, your good morals and influence at home could be swept away by a bad choice of mates or movies or whatever. again, lots of communication will see that this is easy. ask em what they are doing on the weekend exactly, what movie they are seeing (this is for teens obviously, coz little ones, you will know anyways)

be a rock in there lives. be there for them, make sure you tell them if there is ever anything you can do to help them in a situation, any at all, that they can always come to you. make sure they know that they dont need to be afraid and hide problems from you, that you had them too, and still do, and u want to be there to talk to them and help them. let them know u are there. and then.... BE THERE. when they need to talk, make time, take them seriously even if it doesnt seem like a big issue to you, they find it to be big enough to tell u about, so respect that in there lives right now, it is important, and just help them.

they are going to all want your special attention. dont ever spend heaps of time worrying about not looking like u have favourites. if u treat them all with the same love and respect, and tell all of them u have time for them, they will know they are loved. tell them you love them. showing them isnt enough, kids need to be told. tell them every day.

a great way to get closer to your kids is to have a special one on one, once a week. have each of them have mum and them time. wether it be one hour, or one afternoon depending on ur lifestyle... where its just you and that one child. u could take them to maccas for lunch, or to the movies, or just to the park if you dont want to spend much, have a picnic together. each of them needs that special alone time attention, where the other two arent at your arms competing for attention. during this time u can really talk, dote on them, discuss issues if any, etc. just once a week, an hour or longer alone together. its so important. the kids will love it. and if u start young, when they are teens, they will look forward to it still, or even if they dont, they will remember it and always appreciate it.

there is lots you can do!
i suggest speaking to a youth leader at a Christian church, they know everything that the kids these days are facing in society, what they struggle with, and what they do for fun. they research it, they study it, and they have fantastic morals. they will be able to help you reach your children on a level they can relate, and they will show you how you can impact your children in a positive manner.

Answer 2

You sound like such a loving mother. I dont think you should worry so much about it. As long as your concerned and asking yourself these questions I'm sure just being yourself will be enough. To them your already super mom.

Answer 3

FIND OUT WHAT INTEREST EACH ONE AND FOCUS ON THAT NEED. ALWAYS ATTEND EACH ONES ACTIVITIES AND SHOW THEM THAT YOU ARE NOT SHOWING ONE MORE THAN THE OTHER. BELIEVE ME I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT. ONE WOULD SAY YOU LOVE HER MORE THAN ME AND THE OTHER ONE WOULD SAY T HESAME, LOL. I WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR THEM AND WOULD LISTEN TO THEIR EVERY NEED. TAKE ONE SPECIAL TIME WITH EACH ONE AND TELL THE OTHERS THEIR TIME WILL COME, BUT RIGHT NOW SO AND SO HAS MY TIME. BUT REMEMBER TO TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM