My boyfriend and I have a child together we are having some problems and not sure what the outcome will be. What are the chances that he could get custody of our son? His mother is very involed and causing problems too. What would you do?
2006-06-13 04:09:53 · 10 answers · asked by ocean12684 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Choose NOT to live in FEAR...
Fear is an illusion of the mind.
What you fear has NOT actually happened yet... your thoughts are creative.
Be the best mother you can be.
Keep your eyes and ears open, pay attention to what is going on around you and ask yourself, "What would LOVE do now?" and be the best version of that you can be...
Remind yourself that God is with you.... and will not give you more than you can handle.
You are the mother, not her. Nothing will change that.......
Blessings to you.
Think positive.
Be positive.
Be Love.
2006-06-13 04:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would contact a state appointed attorney just in case. I think if you call the court house and tell them that you can't afford a lawyer but need one they can give you a name or two of some lawyers you could use. Then tell them the whole truth and spare no detail, that way if anything ever comes up they already have formed a defense to any accusations the father or his mother may make against you. Also, there would be no reason to tell the father you are doing this for it may give his mom the idea to get a higher priced lawyer for herself. Best wishes
2006-06-13 11:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to say by my lack of knowledge of the situation. if your bf is a good man then work it out as best you can, because he couldn't possibly ask for something unreasonable... and hopefully that's the type of man you made a child with. but from the sounds of it he may be a momma's boy...and that is not good. if you two do split, hopefully you are able to sufficiently take care of your son by yourself and maybe the courts will grant you both joint custody -half&half. but that's going to be a mess, it's better for your child's health if you stay together if you arent' ripping at eachother all the time.
good luck and god bless. if there's anything you can do to make the situation right, i would consider making some compromises before it's too late..
2006-06-13 11:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have much to worry about. the courts favour women in these cases usually. unless you have been known to be violent, on drugs, or have some sort of criminal record that could affect your parenting ability, u have your child's custody in the bag.
if ur boyfriend fights for your child, but you are a competent mother, they wont let him have your child.
if he is violent or whatever, you can always get a restraining order on him before you go to court, coz this will run in your favour during the trial. but only put the restraining order on him if its honestly needed.
i hope you two get everything sorted, for yours and your childs sake. his mother has no business gettiing involved and you are not in the wrong to ask her to let just him and you sort it out without interference. say that your happy to hear her ideas and thoughts on how to change the situation, but then its up to you two as a couple to do the rest together, without interference.
TALK TO EACH OTHER, communicate... do no argue... for your childs sake and future, please put up with each other as you learn to talk instead of brawl.
2006-06-13 11:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would tell the mother that what happens with me and her son..is none of her bussiness, and when she try to take control. tell her she is just the grandmother not the mother and she needs to back off so you and her son can deal with this like grown people. Cause with her in the picture its only going to be harder. Let me know how it works out. But if you break up with the father. They can't just take your son from you so don't let them scare you like that. OK.. Bye for now Hope everything works out for ya.....
2006-06-13 11:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Helen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on if hes a good father first . and if he is he has a good chance to get the kid cuz his mother is involved to . and mothers can cause a great hell load of crap so do your best to tlk thing out with this guy person tlk bout like maybe you get the child 1 week and the next week the father can get him and go from there
2006-06-13 11:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the full story and history..cant comment.Call legal aide and talk to someone about your rights.
2006-06-13 11:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek advice from other people and not anyone on this website.
2006-06-13 11:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by Da Great 1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek advice from a lawyer/solicitor to make sure you know what your rights are. good luck!
2006-06-13 11:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by leighdevaney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what country you're in. How old you & him are and, unfortunately, how much money he has! And his mom too!
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2006-06-13 11:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋