I cheated on my wife with a girl from work. My wife found out and we got divorced. The girl turned into my girlfriend and we fell in love. We were talking marriage. We lasted 7 months till it got unbearable and we broke up. We use to fight over stupid things. We use to speak everyday for 5-6 hours and now we have not spoken for 2 weeks. She has not tried to call me either. She use to call me obsessively. She use to call me 10 times till I picked up. I still love her and I want her back. The problem is I have speaking to my ex-wife more now and I want to be with her too. We were married for 7 years & we have a daughter. My ex-wife told me she needs time if she wants to reconcile but she is willing to work on it. I don't know what to do. I am willling to wait to be with my ex-wife, but the thought of my ex-girlfriend with someone else bothers me and I believe I left my family to be with her for a reason. I want to call her but I don't know. Will she call me? Please help.
2006-06-13 04:04:42 · 13 answers · asked by Red R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow your in a situation arent you. 7 years and a child to boot, i guess that child isnt to important because your so worried about your woman, you have no time for the child? that should be your first priority, your main priority. but it was the woman you are concerned about. sad. if it were me buddy, i,d try as hard as i possiable could to get my wife and kid back, i,d work on the problems between your wife and yourself, fix what ever it was that made ya leave for another woman in the first place. show the mother of your child your worth taking back, but thats only if you are worth it, she,ll figure that out herself. as far as the girlfriend, she probably feels awful about breaking up a family of 7 years, you wont be hearing to much from her i dont think. give it up, and go back to your family pay attention to your child, after all, he or she probably needs you, you are the dad after all, start acting like one. best of luck
2006-06-13 04:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by marinesmomma2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.
Your girlfriend from work isn't returning your calls cause she's probably off chasing another married man. How can your ex-wife even trust you when you are still trying to pick between her and the ex-girl friend.
Why don't you just be single for awhile. Stop dating, you'll be okay w/ out a woman at your side. Use the time to really consider what you want for yourself. Be true to yourself so that the next time you enter into a commitment you can stay true. Your ex-wife will always be a part of your life because you share a child together, keep this in mind so that you do not endanger your relationship w/ your child.
2006-06-13 04:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to act like a man. you have a family and you are running around like a boy. forget whether or not your stupid girlfriend calls you. you have a daughter and your ripping apart her life and guaranteed she'll act out in her teenage years more than you'd like-that is if you even care about her. you have an ex-wife that you completely betrayed. i don't know if you've lived your whole life taking short cuts and have been only focused on satisfying yourself, but you lack what every woman should be looking for in a man. i think your ex-wife might need a slap upside the head for choosing someone like you to pair up with and create another life with. but if she's willing to reconcile, then you better run back to that forgiving woman, because if i was her you'd be in rough shape. you are that typical guy that i pray i never end up with.
2006-06-13 04:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but this is a classic case of wanting your cake and eating it too... only now you're paying for it. You need to get some counseling. It's not healthy for you (and frankly for any woman who would get involved with you) for you to keep playing (oh, yes you are!) your wife. What are you going to do when the next temptation comes along? You can't have a safety net and I'm sure if your wife knew that you felt that way about your little fling, she'd tell you where the highway is.
2006-06-13 04:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need some professional help from a therapist. You don't know what you want, which means you probably don't truly love either of these women. You should get help and try to find out who you are, instead of flip-flopping back and forth between these two women. Also, there is a child involved and this makes the situation more complicated. For the child's sake, you should try to resolve your issues and be a more stable person and not worry about "who you are going be with". You need to worry about who you are and who you want your child to see you as.
2006-06-13 04:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like there might have been a problem in your marriage in the first plae and instead of getting help and working on it you chose to leave it alone. You seem to have made this decsion without thinking it through comletely, now you are still in love with oyur wife but lusting after the other women. If any part of you still loves your ex wife and you want to be with her then you need to work on that, you have a family and its not like you dont love her. Work on working on you two.
2006-06-13 04:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are one selfish person. Obviously your ex wife didn't learn her lesson and hopefully the ex gf finally did. Dont you realize yet that neither of these women are the right one for you ? Your trying to decided between them like their not even human beings with feeling of their own. Do everybody a favor and keep all innocent parties involved ex's.
2006-06-13 04:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well oviously u cheatedon you ex wife becuz she wasnt good enough and you got with that girl so maybe if you called her with not a re and talk to her about how srry you are to have caused pain and stuff and tell her you love her and ask if yall can start over new and go out to eat and if she dont answer leave it on the answer machine and tell her to call you back
2006-06-13 04:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get back with your ex wife while still in love with the xgf you are a piece of garbage. Be a man and leave your x wife alone and move on from the xgf, she obviously does not want you!
2006-06-13 04:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit waiting to see if things will work out as you want them and get commited to one person or the other no matter the consequences.
Make a choice to love, not be tossed by the wind forever.
2006-06-13 04:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋