I'm bisexual, have been dating my BF for 2 years and we live 2gether. He knows I dated women before him, but ever since we've been dating I haven't had an interest in women- until now. I can't help but get turned on by beautiful women... and part of me wants to be with women again, but I don't want to risk what I have with my BF. He gets angry if I even look at a woman, even though he knows I love him and would never cheat. What to do?
2006-06-13 03:54:52 · 14 answers · asked by crazy_beautiful 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Please, only bisexual/lesbian/gay people responding... I don't have time for you "OMG-ITS-SO-WRONG-TO-BE-GAY-people".... Its 2006, wake up and smell the coffee!
2006-06-13 04:04:27 · update #1
Oh and yes... he's considered a 3some, but I think what I'm really longing for is a relationship with a woman....
2006-06-13 04:06:36 · update #2
I am straight but I do have a daughter that is bisexual and I would never say anything wrong regarding anyones sexuality. The thing is when you are in a relationship gay or straight there is a thing called trust and commitment. Commitment means not being with anyone else. Maybe because your bf acts so jealous when you look that it makes you want to act on it. He should trust you. If you want a relationship you need to be faithful but there is nothing wrong with looking and thinking how beautiful someone is. I guess it all comes down to realizing what you want and who you want. Maybe it would be better if you were not in a relationship with your bf and just dated until you are ready to settle down either with a man or a women. You know I don't care what gender my daughter chooses but I do care if the person she chooses cheats on her.
2006-06-13 06:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberley K 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 19 years and then had a child by my ex boyfriend and I have recently started a relationship with another woman in February and I have been so happy I mean I love to be with her I have gotten used to her and I even miss her when she goes to the bathroom in the middle of the night.
Only your happiness counts here if you think that you are going to be happy with another woman then go the hell with what he thinks.I believe that no one can please you like a woman can because we as woman know what we like.
He (your boyfriend) probrably would get turned on by yall being together but dont do it,If you have the want or need to go back then GO you have my vote.The reason he gets angry is because he cant look at another woman in your presence.
I hope that this helps
2006-06-13 05:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quietly, discretely, go and have sex with a female. Either you will find that you truly do want and need to be with a woman, or you will be reminded why you were willing to give up sex with females in the first place. Think about it first though. Do you really want to have sex with a woman? Or do want out from what sounds like an oppressive relationship, using the idea of hetero sex as a somehow more acceptable reason for leaving, and one that allows you to say it's not becuase of him? Do you really want to go back to women, or do just feel you should want to? You've allready broken free from socially imposed requirements of hetero behavior. Don't allow an individual or society to oppress you.
Having said all that...my recommendation is to start going out with other guys and to not go back to women.
2006-06-13 08:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by RachelX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it's wrong or unnatural to think and wonder about being with someone else. I think what is wrong would be for you to be unfaithful. Just from an outsiders viewpoint, though, it seems like you have some questions about your relationship. I'm a lesbian and I fought this for years and years. I married my husband because I was pregnant and because it was "the right thing to do". I stayed with him because "it was the right thing to do". When my partner came into my life....WOW....it all made sense to me. I've found my soul mate and the one person who I can relate to better than anyone....and vice versa for her! Good luck, girl!!! I hope you find what you're looking for.
2006-06-13 07:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just not happy with your relationship with your bf and you want something else, then go for it. What is the other option here? Stay with someone who makes you unhappy and who is insecure and jealous and doesn't allow you to be yourself because that is easy? Trust me, over time that will seem less and less easy. Thats not a viable option.
I would dump him on the grounds that he wont even allow you to communicate or express your sexual desires for women without having a snit fit. And if you're just not that into him, you should really let him go.
2006-06-13 04:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....this really is up to u...u say u love him..and would never cheat on him...so...no matter if we are gay, bi, straight..we will always have urges...thats the test of relationships...its if u can control them and if u REALLY wanna be w/ him. so...if u love him like u say...u'll stay...n show him that u are there...and will be there....u'll show him that even if u are bi, n are attracted to women, that w/ him is where u wanna be...cause words can only get u so far. u feel me?! good luck
2006-06-13 04:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by kiranni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend you should stay with him,but if you don't leave him.He can't tell you what to do,if you look at a women you have the rights to.If he knows you love him he wouldn't get angry.To me it sounds to me like he gets jealous whan you look at another preason.
2006-06-13 04:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would he get equally angry if you looked at another guy? Maybe try a threesome - then you and he could have fun.
2006-06-13 04:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by k6h2o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having seen Paris, how could you want to go back to the farm.
2006-06-13 12:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO .. dating women is wrong ! u were wrong for being with women the first time ! so stay away from them .. its just wrong
2006-06-13 04:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋