We get along great.
But I am not passionate about him.
Also worried about having kids.
2006-06-13 03:46:46 · 28 answers · asked by bagyra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have lots of common interests.
I am financialy secure.
We both want kids.
And yes, I am worried spending my 'golden years' alone.
One negative thing- he does have small ' member" :)
2006-06-13 04:02:47 · update #1
Those are valid concerns.
You have to look at the whole picture and make sure you are looking at all aspects honestly.
If the good outweighs the bad, then make your choice, but it has to be a total chioce, not one that in the back of your mind you think well if it doesn't work I am out of there.
Don't marry for security. Marry because you love him in spite of the age difference and challenges it brings.
2006-06-13 03:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not completely and totally in love -- no matter what your age difference is-- you shouldn't do it. think about it this way-- you don't feel the passion now-- which means you probably won't later on either-- which could lead to straying and eventually getting a divorce.. now do you really want to go thru all that? i am all for love-- and all for marriage-- but i believe that Passion is one of the big things about it-- don;t settle for something just because you think you have to., your more important than that. i have seen people that settle-- and some get out of it by divorcing and others are stuck because of kids or because of family pressures and i know from experience that it sucks when you can't have the one your truly supposed to be with because of that.. so just be careful. Marriage is supposed to be forever..
2006-06-13 10:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by cyndi g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get a long great but you have no passion then the possibility exist that at some point you may not get along so great anymore then what ..
DOes he want kids at 51? I am seeing a man that is 20 years older but it is passionate and neither of us wants more kids, so it works.. It can work but the parameters are the same for ANY relationship , it has to be genuine
2006-06-13 10:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by earthling4luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, not that it can't work out. But if you aren't completely in love wiht him, you have PLENTY of time to have kids - and find the right man.
Besides, women live longer than men, so you might potentially be looking at some very lonely golden years without him.
Getting along doens't make a marriage work - being in love, and being on the same page when it comes to kids, family, money, etc - is what makes it work.
2006-06-13 10:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is too many years difference. Your interests in life will change as will his. I married a man 13 yrs my senior and after about 6 years, forget it. We had nothing in common any more. And you need to find someone that you are passionate about! You deserve it!
2006-06-13 10:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by boo66_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 and my husband is 44. It works for us. Age is just a number. There are things that you need to consider though. Chances are he will go before you and you need to be prepared for that financially and emotionally. We will be married 9 years in Nov. and have never been happier. The best part is people are always trying to figure out if he is your father or what.
2006-06-13 10:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by hick_chix_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why would you marry him what is he your Sugar Daddy if so it's time you take control of your own life I had one of those but I had to become independent and let him go I haven't seen him in 8 months and I'm doing just fine it's hard but I make it work b/c I'm with some one that I am in love with and we got engaged on Christmas Eve so don't rush and do something you'll regret in later yrs.
2006-06-13 10:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Never. You'll just find someone you really love later and you'll have to go through a nasty divorce. Better to just hold out for Mr. Right than settling for Mr. Ok. You'll be very thankful later when you do fall in love!
2006-06-13 10:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with a man for 5 years who was 14 years my senior and married to him for 6 months. We just grew apart as time got further along we wanted different things. Your still young enough to want to party all night and hang out as to where he is getting to the point where all hell want to do is hang out at home along with you.
2006-06-13 11:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by just divorced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is strange..........but you did say........You ARE NOT PASSIONATE about him.........so I say no.. ONLY FOR THAT REASON........
.....you also would be taking the chance of being alone sooner than you might want to........with the age difference........it's ok, now...........but when you are 48.... he'll be 70.......and well... you do the math..........
Regardless of age --- if you don't have passion........don't marry anybody for "other reasons"...........you won't stay happy, long...
2006-06-13 10:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋