how does one find out why someone committes suicide?

Question

my son killed himself Why?

Answer 1

if he didn't leave a note, you may never know for sure

Answer 2

people become suicidal because they get overwhelmed. sometimes it's emotional, when (for example) someone's spouse leaves them and they cannot fathom how to go on. other times, it's financial (losing one's job), or even caused by a chemical imbalance.

in any case, the person gets to his wits end and, rather than give it a bit and wait for the sun to come out, just gives in to depression and decides that feeling nothing is better than feeling what is going on in his life. like the little booklet says, Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

it's unfortunate, because if the person had sought professional help, the cause of the problem could have likely been remedied.

since it's your son, you're probably feeling survivor's guilt. you feel like you should have known, should have seen it coming and should have been able to do something about it. don't go there. suicide was his choice, his "way out". it wasn't up to you, it was up to him. and he chose to quit.

now, depending on what religion you follow, you may be concerned for your son's immortal soul. i don't wanna get all preachy here, but you've got nothing to worry about. it's true that God frowns upon such things as suicide, but it's not a one-way ticket to hell as some believe. God is a much more compassionate deity nowadays, and your son is receiving counseling on the other side better than what's available here.

You WILL see him again, and in the mean time you should forgive him for committing suicide, forgive yourself for whatever you still have misgivings about, and go on to lead a happy life. It's what your son wants now, more than anything - for you to be happy. Remember all the good things in life, and let the bad ones fade away. Keep your son alive in your memory, and know that he walks with you as you go about your life.

Answer 3

Unless he left you a note or was very open with someone in his peer group, you'll never know exactly why he killed himself.

I'm so sorry - but I also know you've heard those words enough to make you want to scream. There is nothing anyone can say in a situation like this that will make it any easier to bear for you.

Just remember, if you ask the question, be prepared for some very hard information to deal with. It may be an answer you never wanted to hear or one you really would rather not know.

Just remember, as hard as this world is for adults, its even worse for adolescents and young adults. They have all those emotions and hormones making them crazy, plus they have so much pressure on them. It could be he just couldn't deal with the pain of living in this world anymore.

Good luck in your search for answers, but be prepared for some hard answers.

Answer 4

I am so sorry. I don't know what makes a person do this. Maybe there were some clues to him being unhappy? There is so much pressure on people these days,especially younger people(I don't know his age). I had a cousin to kill himself several years ago,he was 30 or so. He was having marrital and financial difficulties.So, there are a lot of "reasons" to them to end their lives,but it still doesn't help those who are left behind to pick up the broken pieces. Take care and my prayers are with you.

Answer 5

There can be many reasons why someone does such a thing. When I attempted to do it, I wrote a letter to my husband family and friends. I wanted to hurt to end. I could not handle the pain i was feeling any longer.
This may not be why your son thought it necessary to do so but, I wanted a permanent solution to temporary problems...Inever thought that my problems would end...i was just that weak and numb to it all... My mind raced, my limbs trembled, I even called out for help but noone heard me...
I am sure you son loves you and you may never know why he did what he did. Just think on the days that you all had together...the times he told you he loved you, why he creid out for mommie to take him out of harms way.

Answer 6

People often leave suicide notes explaining why they killed themselves. If there is no note, try to find out what was going on at school by asking teachers and classmates.

Good luck with your quest to find answers. I'm sorry to hear he committed suicide.

Answer 7

Im Sorry to know about the loss........A person comitt's suicide cause he is upset with life... or he thinks that he has nothing to do in life.....(gives up) coming to your son's situation... he must have gone through something bad if not he could have left a note or something... if you want to know the reason.. just search his room... or his belongings....... you may find something like a personal diary or such... well thats my kinda answer to your question.....

Answer 8

in most cases someone who is depressed will not show any signs and some will leave you concerned that they might hurt themselves. you have to see what the real root of the problem might be and offer an ear and let them know that life is more than just what is there, but what they can make of it. being lonely, rejected, betrayed or hurt serverly,those are just a few reasons that would make a person desperate enough to end thier life.

Answer 9

Everyone has different reasons for committing suicide. Many do it because they are going through pain they think that they will never get over. The important thing is to never blame yourself and that if you suspect someone has these thoughts then TRY TO HELP THEM!!!

Answer 10

I have a friend who's husband comitted suicide, leaving her with 2 small boys. She takes comfort in organizations like this one.

Answer 11

The only one who can answer that is the person who commited suicide.