I think about being with other women as much as the next guy, though they are just fleeting thoughts and i dont think they are any harm.
But by way of my girlfriends tricky questions, she managed to get me to tell her this, which upset her and she reckons that if i think about other women she must not be enough for me. Which of course is absolute rubbish!
Or is it?
What do you think?
2006-06-13 03:30:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't tell her what you're thinking about. You will have these thoughts if you live to be 100 yrs. old...it's the nature of men. Keep your mouth shut; or say something to the effect of..."yes, I look at girls and when I do, I see how lucky I am to have you"..."yes, I think about other women when I see them, but they don't compare to you. What do you think about that guy over there?"....Man...you need to learn to keep your mouth shut!!! Neither of you are mature enough to understand human nature at this point. It's a losing game to be completely honest regarding your every thought when it's driven by hormones. Get the picture, Dude?
2006-06-13 03:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every body has a fantasy or a thought of what it would be like to be with someone else... and there isnt anything wrong with this, unless of course you act upon it and cheat on your partner! This is what your gf is afraid of, as perhaps you have given her the wrong impression? Perhaps she is insecure as she doenst feel that she is giving you enough in the relationship for you to think about other women?
Again, this is just a natural response, and slightly based upon her insecurities. Then again tyou have to look at it from a different perspectve-if your gf admitted to you, that she thought of other men...how would you react? Cos in my opinion, i think that if the shoe was on the other foot, you might react the same way.
You have to learn to be more sensitive in a relationship! Your gf obviousley cares about you and doesnt want to loose you, which is what she is afraid of! You have to connvince her that you love her and it wasnt meant personally. Tell her that you were just being honest with her.
Tell her how much you love her!
xx
2006-06-13 11:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to look at attractive people. I assume you're human, therefore you can't help it. It'd be a very dull life if, once we were in a relationship, we stopped looking.
It's only when you act on it that it's wrong.
I once made the mistake of asking my boyfriend if he fantasised about other ewomen. Of course he does. I do about other men. But we never act on it.
I think she just needs reassurance. It's not always necessary to be completely honest. Tell her no-one else compares to her. Be nice. Make her feel special. She'll soon stop asking if she's sure you love only her.
2006-06-13 11:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Patchouli Pammy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being insecure.Guys can't help allot of girls can't help it. as long as you are not straying or thinking of someone else when you are with her it's fine. Maybe she feels not pretty enough or she is self conscious about a part of her body just make sure you are complimenting her everyday and paying attention to her and you should be fine if that doesn't help then it may be something more and you might need to move on.
2006-06-13 10:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by shortpplrule01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correct. Absolute rubbish!
Only someone with a severe mental problem/low self-esteem/confidence issues would even think it abnormal. It doesn't mean she's not enough for you, it means SHE THINKS she's not enough for you. If you say she is...she is! But it's her problem, not yours.
She probably could do with a bit of counselling...
2006-06-13 11:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nefeco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made her ask the question?
Maybe, she has been thinking of another guy also, but could'nt explain it to herself that it is normal!
Everyone does it, you always think about things that you know you cant get! its just a matter of how to control those feelings and working out what is more important, your girl or the fantasy!
For future reference, please dont tell her the entire truth, sometimes, what she dont know, wont hurt!
2006-06-13 10:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by lonely_sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are dating they always tend to think about other people. But it is up tp them to actually go after what they thought or just keep thinking about it. Ask her if she ever thought about any other guy, most likely she will say no, but everybody does it. It is very normal.
2006-06-13 10:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts are just thoughts. When you act upon those thoughts, that is when it is wrong. All of us are only human and thoughts of different people will come and go. I would believe that she has had thoughts or dreams of other men. Dreams are thoughts also. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 10:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet she thinks about other guys!
2006-06-13 10:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋