I'm a 32 year-old man who just became divorced after being with my wife for 7 years. The single life frightens and confuses me, but I'm feeling very lonely and I miss the companionship of my ex-wife. What is the best way to get over these feelings?
2006-06-13 03:20:05 · 16 answers · asked by MrDynamic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you develop codependency after being with someone for awhile. Take this opportunity to start afresh and learn to be independent again. It's okay to be alone, it does not have to be lonely. Change your lifestyle a bit, involve yourself in sports, exercise and other activitis that you miss doing while married. Get off the couch and the computer. Stop being the victim and self pity attitude!!
2006-06-13 03:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
believe me - the single life is frightening and confusing enough without the divorce. I would suggest hanging out with your friends when ever possible- this may allow you to have some fun and you may meet a nice lady along the way. The time out with the friends may allow you to kind of keep your mind off of her. I am sure it is a great lose in your daily routine to be use to falling asleep to and waking up next to your ex and all of a sudden you don't have that _ no matter how bad things were during your day- you were atleast gaurenteed that.
I would say take it one moment at a time and try to enjoy yourself . hang out with friends a little more often and maybe try a new sport or hobby . honestly these things help take your mind off your ex and help open new opportunities for you to meet other females.
take it easy and good luck
2006-06-13 03:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by SIMPLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 move closer 2 God
if u say u miss this woman i belive the divorce step was not a wise one . Please sit yrself down to know what exactly what went wrong in yr marriage and make a decision whether u can retrace ur step or go for another woman.
But if u ask me u will not find a SAINT in the next woman.
I have a strong conviction that u love ur WIFE.Pls be objective.For 7 years u've gone far with her. Others are not coming from the moon
If u are a Xtian study the word u will find solace in God.
2006-06-13 03:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by mitee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep yourself away from things that remind you of the marrige, you need time away from pictures of family events ect to get on with your life. Try finding a new hobby or getting involved with an old interest that you may have lost from the marriage. That is a great way to meet new people and give yourself something to do with your time. It's going to take some time and just like with any relationship everyone is different and every situation is difference. Call up some friends or go workout, jsut keep yourself busy and away from reminders that may bring you down. Hang in there I'm sure it will get better for you in time.
2006-06-13 03:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, staying at home and thinking about the wrongs and rights only makes it worse. Get out with friends and surround your self with others. Dont talk to the ex unless you have to and do not under any cirumstances ever have sex with them again it olny starts the old hurt all over again. I found that going out and doing things and staying active made it alot better.
2006-06-13 03:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by bergenchrissie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not get over it but you can get through it...life goes on...occupy your free time with activities that are healthy for you...and may bring you in contact with someone that can share emotional or possibly physical satisfaction with...good luck.
2006-06-13 03:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend social events. Hang out with friends and family.
2006-06-13 03:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by abcdaycare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a hobby i too am divorced and enjoying my single life because of all the things i am finding out about myself
2006-06-13 03:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married
2006-06-13 03:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy, get a hobby, talk to friends and family.Go out with them.Do some reading.etc.hope this helps you out a bit, and wish you well.
2006-06-13 03:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋