My best friend and I planned a vacations together for our families. We rented a house on a lake for a week. After picking out dates that worked for both we agreed that I would put the deposit on my credit card. I gave her a copy of tentant contract. My friend canceled. Her reasons were her nephew's graduation party, her daughter's dance class and her work. The house is only about an hour to an hour and half from our homes. My husband and I were unable to afford the vacation home on our own and were forced to forfiet the $800 deposit. Keep in mind that my friend is VERY financial stable. Should the other couple reimburse us for the entire deposit or only half?
2006-06-13 03:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by michele_fct 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Other - Business & Finance
I think you should ask her to pay the whole thing but then accept if she is only willing to pay half.
It is her fault that you are out $400.00, though that is the risk you take in these situations. I think you can only collect on $400.00 legally.
I'd still ask her for the full amount.
2006-06-13 03:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The prior agreement was a even split. Hence the meaning of "sharing the burden". Regardless of the reasons in any financial transactions rather be loss or gain is felt by all parties. There is no escape from either side. I am sorry about the sour note in your vacation plans. Sometimes situations occur just for a test. Not to sound harsh, but sometimes a little loss is worth the knowing of the true relationship. Think of it this way. You paid them $400 to exit your life. You got off very cheap. I wish I had when I also found out the hard way on an even split. Take care.
2006-06-13 10:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by uvcausdhidoughts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she ought to reimburse you at least her part of the deposit. She obviously knew about her dance class and job and graduation BEFORE you guys planned this. Perhaps she is not as financially secure as she lets on, she realized she could not afford this but doesn't want to admit that to you and told you about all her other obligations to save face.
Mention that you know it is a lot of money, but you would still like to take YOUR group on a vacation and could she make arrangements to pay you back her half a little at a time?
2006-06-13 10:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Frankie Baby 82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money or friendship? How close are the two of you as friends, I mean you and her? You know, along with having money comes the respoinsibility of managing it well and in good taste, and with generosity and consideration of other people's feelings, and all. I can't spell it but it's called "noblesse oblige." This is another version of it. She, I feel, is obliged to treat you as her friend and to go out of her way to make you feel completely comfortable being that friend, if the friendship is to survive. The blunt version would be is money or friendship more important to the two of you? If the two of you are really smart women, you will do what smart women do: you will get yourselves (the two of you) into a huddle over tea and small sandwiches in the back yard some quiet day and discuss some mutual agreement as to how to settle this. If it is not settled soon she will very clearly feel the hollow space it takes up and will wonder what on earth has happened with the two of you. Spare the two of you this uneasiness and resolve this quickly, if you can. A good friendship is worth all of the money in Christendom. I am sending you lots of good energy so you can resolve this amicably between you, and I hope the rest of your summer is the best one you've put in in ages! - G., South Portland, Maine, U.S.A.
2006-06-13 10:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by GORDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Half, because you could have found someone else to split the house with if you could not afford it on your own.
If she feels guilty about it and offers to reimburse the whole thing, I would accept it. However I would only expect to get half of the deposit back.
2006-06-13 10:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by VATreasures 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they give you enough time to maybe find another family to replace them? If not, I think you're entitle to all of it. A friend wouldn't leave you holding the bag. I would ask her for the reimbursement and explain how this makes you feel. You've done nothing wrong.
2006-06-13 11:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rhonda G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Half. Since this is an informal arrangement, there is no way you can force her to pay you. Tell her that you feel it's unfair that you lost the deposit because she was not free.
2006-06-13 10:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by inotstupidtoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say half, because you would have paid your half, anyway, and your friend was splitting the cost with you. Just because she backed out of the deal doesn't mean that she should pay your half, as well. Good luck.
2006-06-13 10:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Laurel_Eden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend cancelled, but then again, so did you. Yeah it was because you couldn't afford to pay it all, but the contract was between both of you. I say your friend has to pay HALF!
2006-06-13 10:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the previous decision went well with both then your friend just left, then it's not your fault at all. But it is hers although she couldn't control it. So you must ask her for half of the money because it was pre decided. Hope I helped.
2006-06-13 10:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by nancythemysterysolver123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋