My daughters friend is 13 y o.She wears thongs with short skirts.I told her this is not right .?

Question

I said to her everyone can see your rear when u go up the stairs at school or when she sit down.This does not seem to bother her.Should I talk to her mom about it?????????????

Answer 1

I guess everyone is entitled to raise their kids any way they want to. If her parents don't care, why should you?

In any case, you could go to the school principal instead. Her parents would be more open to comments from him/her rather than from you.

Answer 2

I would. I am 19y.o. I have never wore anything like that, and my younger nieces are doing the same thing your daughter is from the way it sounds, and they are 12 and 14. Plus I believe that it attracts older guys and depending on how old your daughter is mentally that may not be a good thing. I mean when I was younger I dated older guys that were probly 4 or 5 years older than me when I was about 15. My parents didn't always mind because they believed that I was mentally older then my physical age. Nothing bad ever happened. But some aren't always ready.
But anyways, plus if she is going to school like that I bet it is a dress code violation at school. Maybe you should look into the school rules and try to use that to enforce that she not wear those things.

Answer 3

I am 19 years old now. I was around 12 when I started doing the same thing. What parents need to remember is children are growing up alot faster therse days because of the times we live in . I think telling her mom and then her mom griping at her or telling her to quit will only make her want to rebel worse. I would talk to her mom and help her devise a plan of action. She will need to talk to her daughter about some things now!!! Before it is too late. Girls are having sex at 12!! Whether you want to believe it or not. I have alot of friends that were doing the same things!!!!! Inform the girl about the dangers of sexually transmitted disease and pregnancy!!! The prettier the girl the more likely she will be to be approached!!! I had 3 friends in the 8th grade through the 10th grade that had abortions without their parents ever even knowing....still to his day!!

Answer 4

well obvisously if her daughter lives with her-her mom is probably aware of how her 13 y.o. dresses.unless her daughter is changing her clothes when she gets to school.but if you think somethings wrong with how her daughter i think you should tell her mom.(her's not yours-so that means she might have a different opinion),so i think if you talk to her mom i think you should tell her how you have already talked to her daughter,how you feel about the sitution of how she dresses.and maybe how it will affect her daughter in the future(example: by the way she dresses some guy will like her,be her bf,they will have sex,and she will mostly likely get pregnany).and make sure you let her mom know that you're not judgeing her daughter, because that could cause a real problem.

Answer 5

Her mother is probably not even aware of what she wears to school or any other place. And she really can be the kind of girl to be a bad influence to your daughter. Maybe a talk with her mother would be the right thing because she is just a little girl and should dress appropriate to school.

Answer 6

People shouldn't suspect things by how they dress, but just think about how you feel about talking to her mom. But personally I think just for safety you should. Because my friend dresses like that and says she doesn't care, but by now at almost a the end of the school year I KNOW FOR A FACT that she has been passed around more that a joint in a room of drug addicts.

Answer 7

Suggest skorts.They are mini skirts and shorts at the same time.You can be more flexable in them and they look really good.You can only suggest things to her and her mother ,because you are not her parent,and telling her mother that her daughter dresses in a rather unmodest way might be offending.
like I said skorts really do pwn all,especially if you're the clumsy type who seems to fall alot,by some freaky way of nature get your science book stuck in a tree,or have to kick somebody's ***.
Wow.I just dscribed myself to a T.....

Answer 8

you should definitely talk to her mom about that. 1. thongs are nasty! period! 2. The girl obviously has low self-esteem because she is trying this hard to get attention. So make sure things are going well at home and watch how your daughter dresses because if she starts dressing like that you need to do something.
3. your daughter needs to get better friends hope this helps!

Answer 9

Unfortunately a lot of young girls dress like that these days. I don't know why their parents let them. My 13 year old daughter would not be allowed to dress like that under any circumstance, but I'm lucky, she doesn't like looking like a tramp. If you are truly concerned, I'd talk to the mom and let her know you are concerned about the way the girl is dressing at such a young age.

Answer 10

Dont you think her mom knows? I mean, sure it is wrong for her to be advertising her body this way...I wouldnt allow my kids to do it. But, I am sure her mom is aware of it. Of course, I could be wrong, and her mom just doesnt pay much attention to her daughter's clothing. Either way, this is not a good situation at all. I would bring it up and see how her mom reacts to it. If she is nonchalant about it, then I wouldnt allow your daughter to hang out with her any more, b/c her mom obviously doesnt care, and you dont want your daughter to think its cool to dress that way. This girl sounds like a bad influence.

Answer 11

I know they say it takes a village to raise a child and i think that's so true. Except ur impute isn't needed to raise ur daughter's friend but looking at her (ur daughter's friend) will help u raise ur child. I say leave if her mother can't tell her that then ur wasting ur time. Instead talk to ur daughter and ask her what she thinks about how her friends dress, and the fact that her butt is exposed?? Ur daughter's smart. Plus her friend will take it more serious coming from her than from u.