2006-06-13 02:53:48 · 18 answers · asked by SW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
O.K......Before you tear his head off, you have to ask yourself...is he a good husband? Does he take care of me? does he provide for me? etc, etc. If all he's done is forget to say Happy Birthday, then you should forgive him and move on! We men would forget our names if we weren't in constant communication with others!
If you really think about it (yes I know, I'm being too easy 'cause I'm a man) but if you REALLY think about it....as a husband if his worse fault is forgetting the little things, but he comes through on the big things.....does it make that big of a difference if he forgets to say happy birthday?
2006-06-13 03:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Big D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man Bamski has R E A L issues... but it looks like you might have a problem on your hands, that you may have been ignoring and its taking you to this. Any real husband knows your birthday and would be sick with guilt if he forgot, don't do anything childish to let him know he forgot. You guys need to sit down and talk about whats going on in your relationship and, really think about what you need from your husband, don't live in denial of what you need. Life is real, and is too short to be unhappy
2006-06-13 03:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by summer_dante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine forgets once the day is here. Usually he remembers and buys a card the week before and then forgets to give it to me on my birthday. I ususally wait till around dinner time and then when there is no dinner being prepared,(and he asks what's for dinner), I remind him I expect to go out on my birthday. It's not a good solution but it gets the message across that I'm NOT happy. Then I do something for myself and let him alone for the rest of the night.
2006-06-13 03:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by cass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i have been together for 16 years not once did i get a happy birthday or ahappy aniversary but a bout 5 years ago i stopped the same thing and ive noticed this year he dosent say any thing yet but a day or so after a occasion i do get something do what he does or just get even and ignore him on that specail day i do
2006-06-13 03:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband probably couldn't forget my birthday, even though this is our first year together. That's because my parents stopped throwing me parties years ago, so I got in to the habit of throwing them myself. I always say that if it will hurt you for someone to forget something, then it is much better to just remind them in advance than it is to wait until it passes and then feel forgotten because they didn't remember. It works so much better, and that way they can do for your birthday what they would genuinely want to do.
Last year, I remembered his birthday but didn't get him anything because he said it wasn't too important. But then his birthday came and nobody else remembered and he felt terrible. I felt terrible for him, but since we talked about it (instead of ignoring it or him choosing to ignore my birthday this year to get even), I can know that his birthday is important to him and help throw a birthday party for him this year. Talking about and knowing this helps me to love him more, which is a wonderful thing in a marriage!
2006-06-13 04:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by zuzuganga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably be upset but I would say" hey you hurt my feelings forgetting my birthday." and that would automaticly make him feel like an a**. But i would forgive him i would also say "since you forgot you are going to do something really special for me so you can make it up to me, Right?" We all know how some guys are .
2006-06-13 03:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by shortpplrule01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, don't waste your time waiting for him to remember it and don't waste your energy and tears suffering for it. men are clueless and see this things as unimportant, they are men and is not like he doesn;t love you, he is just, well, a man.
I tell you what worked for me, instead of being mad and hurt, I organized what I wanted to do my self, made reservation in my favorote restaurant, buy myself the gift that I wanted and USED HIS CREDIT CARD.
That way, you get what you want and avoid the anxiety and the crushed feelings. You gotta do what you gotta do and holding a grudge and being hurt ir NOT going to make him remember next year.
Good luck
2006-06-13 03:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men works all the time so it can happen don't make it big deal!
Buy him a PDA from you as that you are giving him your birthday present, that will make him to remember all his life!
2006-06-13 03:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by talkbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy yourself flowers, call up your girlfriends (who didn't forget) and go get ice cream and see a movie with them - or go out drinking and dancing with your girls.
as far as my husband and I are concerned, it's one day out of 365 - and he treats me great everyday, not just for one out of the year! Which is cool, let's me off the hook if I forget his b-day, too (I never do, just can't always think of anything clever for him!)
2006-06-13 03:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till the days over and then say how hurt you are and dont ever remember his lol to me its just another day hmmmmmmm but i know feelings do get hurt dont hold no grudge though its not worth it just be happy good luck
2006-06-13 02:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋