2006-06-13 02:46:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's with them is the fact that they don't know how to honor a committment. They are selfish in that they guage the success of their marriage on how THEY feel. Once the new car smell goes away, they think it's time to trade for a new one. It takes effort to keep a marriage exciting and to pull through the periods of time when things are a little low, which is inevitable. However, a lot of people are too into themselves and not their marriage.
2006-06-13 02:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by mye77 2 · 19⤊ 4⤋
I am a newly married woman July 12th will be one year for me. I don't know what makes them think that. When you stand before God and witnesses and take those vows it is sacred and it means that you and that person are to love each other no matter what. The grass always looks greener on the other side until you get there and realize you still have to mow the lawn. Me and my new husband just recently went through this very thing where he thought it was okay to be with someone else. I put him in check real quick and let him know I would not be tolerating this kind of behavior. I was about to kick him straight to the curb but I prayed and I told God that I forgave him and I also let my husband know that I forgave him. We are going to stay together and work it out. He has one more time to screw up and he is out the door though. You don't have to take anybody's mess you can do bad all by yourself. Remember you are beautifully and wonderfully made.
2006-06-13 10:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Yvonne A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are cultures in which this is absolutely acceptable. If you're hung up on the Judaeo/Christian worldview, then for you it isn't acceptable.
I suspect that what you're really asking is whether it's acceptable to stray now and then as long as he and she have "an understanding". In most cases, it ain't a good way to preserve a marriage. Such shenanigans are usually the result of a deeply self-centered, immature personality. And the fact is, it's really remarkably rare for both parties in a marriage to fully agree with the "we have an understanding" mantra.
Note once more: this is true in my culture - that of middle-class USA - but there are cultures in this world that accept that both men and women will enjoy casual sex outside of marriage. They are not evil, they are not sinners - they are members of another culture with as much right to their own practices and beliefs as anybody else.
Don't pretend that you can casually slip into such a culture when it is not your native one and be perfectly accepted and content. Ain't gonna happen - you try it and you're likely to be discovered some bright early morning, lying shot and dismembered in a roadside ditch. Not because you got it on with a native, but because the locals don't appreciate outsiders - you -coming in and pulling the high-and-mighty B'wana with 'em! Woman or man - they ain't likely to tolerate that bull for long!
You looking to get it on with someone other than hubby-dear, are ya? Good luck and happy hunting - just don't pretend it's anything other than what it is!
2006-06-13 10:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clueless about the sanctity of marriage institute. Emotionally inmature. Poor communicator( might yap alot of garbage). Dishonest with their own feelings. Live in the world of Denial. And refuse to take the responsibilities of a fail relationship.
2006-06-13 09:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many options;
Deterioration of the relationship with their spouse
The need for the chase
It helps boost self esteeme
Boredome
I'm sure there are other reasons but those are the only things I can think of right off the top of my head.
2006-06-13 09:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't respect the meaning of Marriage, and it's like now Marriage is just an activity. Marriage is to be a commitment!
2006-06-13 09:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by charliesangel_84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't know what makes them happy and have a hard time trying to figure it out and don't worry about the consequences along the way...
2006-06-13 10:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people that dont want to be alone and dont trust that their partner is going to be there with them through THICK and THIN so they are always creating "options" in the even that their mate decides to leave them.
2006-06-13 09:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously never been in an abusive marriage then. Or your a xtian.
How someone can be that judgmental without knowing someones circumstances never ceases to amaze me....
2006-06-13 09:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship. Some couples decide going into the marriage that they will have an "OPEN" marriage. I see nothing wrong with this.
2006-06-13 10:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand it either . when u marry u are supposed be with just them. but some think they can have one on the side . and its ok cause the other knows . its still wronggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg
2006-06-13 09:49:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋