how do i know who i am?

Question

seems like a dumb question but sometimes i have a hard time
knowing myself...truly understanding who i am...i have strong opinions and don't mind to speak my mind but at times i find it difficult to articulate what exactly i might be feeling-
i come off as being VERY confident- maybe even too confident,
i scare people sometimes-
and yet i feel i'm faking it most of the time:)
how can you fake confidence? and how can i stop?
and just be me? when i don't know who i am...? help

Answer 1

answers come as you grow up. confidence comes with succes.
success comes working and learning, improving yourself.
understanding your thoughts and feelings is also a process.
You will change your mind many times; everytime you learn, see or experience something new. All that is normal and its fine. Actually its all desirable. That way you wont get bored. There are people who get stucked in their lives, with their daily repetitve lives, ending daily on the sofa infront of their TV watching commercials.
You dont seem to be in danger of getting stucked like that. good for you.

Answer 2

You will not find the answer from other people. Some body might tell you an answer that convince you but is it the right one?
The process of discovering your self should be from you and by you. I mean, you have a mind to make a judgment about something and you have your emotions that give you the guts.

Too many questions and answers are out there but which is right and which is wrong? No body can say for sure but we at least can look for proofs and reach a conclusion.

Who created us? Is there a religion? Which is right and which is wrong?

You can only answer these questions the RIGHT answer if you follow an objective research and judgment.

If you answer the previous questions, finding out who are you will be a consequence

Answer 3

Well, first, how old are you? It's very normal for ppl to go through times in their lives where they question who they are and who they want to become.. I am going through that right now and have been for the last 4 years. It can be hard to find yourself when the world is so judgemental or if you have obligations to ppl in your life to be someone that you may not want to be (husband, boyfriend, kids, parents, etc). You basically need to take a step back from your life and really examine what is important to you and figure out what you believe and what you don't. Then, you just need to be however you feel most comfortable. It might take trying some new things to figure that out, but in the end it's all worth it.

Answer 4

Most folks think the same... only a few are REALLY confident enough to do it.

I work for a company where I work with clients... for the last 18 years I've been in front of people talking about deals worth millions of dollars.... all the time amazed that I get away with it.. But we're hardest on ourselves.. other folks I talk to are amazed at how easy I get up and talk to people and present.. but I on the otherhand get stagefright and such..

I find with friends and neighbours I'm me.. but when I need to the business guy comes into play... If you know you do it just put it to good use... Just be true to friends and family ... then you wont go to far wrong.

Answer 5

You are, at the most basic level, an animal that wants to survive. Your self-image is a reflection of your survival instinct. Here's an eample: A person knows they are not beautiful or outgoing so they become reclusive and withdrawn to avoid ridicule. On the other hand, a person who is outgoing or charming will welcome attention because they get a positive response. At first this is your hindbrain calling the shots. However, because we are conscious of ourselves, we can change who we are by putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations and working to adapt ourselves.

In short, you are not faking anything, you are adapting, perhaps unconsciously, to your surroundings. Arrogant people are that way as a defense mechanism. You need to decide what makes you happy and see if it is in line with what you project to other people. As far as changing who you are, you are who you are and that's it. There's no right or wrong. If you want to change, do something out of the ordinary, like volunteer at a nature park or join the debate team. You might discover who you are.

Answer 6

you are the only you. sometimes we play up our attributes, and sometimes we act tough so that others don't know we're scared. don't do that. just be who it feels most comfortable to be when no one is around. that's the real you. you come out of hiding when there's no one to hide from. don't be afraid. who you are is way better than anyone you try to be. Plus, if someone falls in love with a front, and it isn't the real you, it will only hurt you both in the long run, but if you open up and be yourself, then you give people the privilage of knowing the real you and that's worth so much.

Answer 7

Hi sweet heart,what you are asking it will come with time.There is all ways good to be Confident,it make you strong,but before you take any dession take your time and when you are tall king to other use wright language ,make it practical,I hope it will help you,and don't feel guilty in side only make yourself strong and be confident go further in life .Feel good for your self and let others also feel good in your accompany.with blessings GOD bless you wisdem

Answer 8

Do some soul searching, write down all of your history and everything you have strong and even weak feelings about.Only you know but you can ask others how they view you.Then compare your own notes to theirs.

Answer 9

Hey..Can you take a personality test from MBTI . That really helps in knowing exactly who you are .

Answer 10

Get rid of the drugs for starters.