my baby gets real mad when...?

Question

when i set her down with a toy in her swing or bouncy thing she whines and gets mad so easily...why is she liek that and what can i do? she is almost 5 months old please help.

Answer 1

Because she needs *you*, not some inanimate object to take care of her! Babies are very needy, and not just at convenient times.

Answer 2

Almost 5 months is still pretty young to be "spoiled" I myself can never let my baby cry it out. It teaches them nothing other than that the one person they can count on has abandoned them. My son gets crabby if he is too tired or hungry before he goes in the swing, doesn't fit bouncy chair anymore I got a linebacker :) Have you tried to lay her on th floor on ablanket with toys around her? She is almost big enough for that. It would be something new for awhile maybe she'd like it. Try putting some music on when she goes in the swing something calming that she likes. No tv. Well good luck honey and enjoy

Answer 3

Maya did this. She wanted to be held ALL THE TIME. It was awful. I loved holding her, but I also had to get things done. I started putting her down and telling her that I would be back as soon as I got finished washing dishes, or whatever. Then I would let her cry, never more then 5 min or so.

After about a week, she would whine a minute, then play for about 5 min, and then cry again. Very slowly I would let her sit alone for a minute more, and a minute more. Eventually I could vacuum the whole house around her, and she loved it once she got ever the 'mommy's not holding me' thing.

And, she was crawling by 6 months.

Answer 4

What you are experiencing is fairly common with babies. Please DO NOT listen to the idiots who are saying "she is spoiled" or "she is testing you, let her cry" That is just stupid. Babies at 5 months have NO CONCEPT developmentally of "testing" that does not come until after 1 year of age. She does not have the psychological ability to test you OR to be spoiled. She is just too young. She just wants to be held because it is comforting to her to be close to you. Try putting her in the swing and then staying there and playing with her a bit to help her adjust. When she seems okay, try walking away. If that doesnt work, try to put the swing wherever you are so she can see you. You can talk to her while doing what you need to do. Try also putting the swing in front of the TV and see if she will watch the lights and listen to the sounds. (Its okay for babies to watch TV). Hope this helps.

Answer 5

First calm down. Secondly before you put the baby in her swing let her pick what she likes, if she is not to that point yet give her two or three toys if the space is avaible. Another possiblity is she is not very happy to be in the swing. Personally I was not a big fan of the swings so I built a small space for my girl using baby gates and pillows.

Answer 6

I hate when people say that babies, especially 5 months old, are trying to test the parent. If she has a sensitive tummy, the motion of the swing and the bouncy seat might make her feel sick. Try to put her in the seat or swing without the motion.

Answer 7

My baby-boy was the same way, always wanted constant attention or to be held. It got to the point I had to put him in the baby-backpack and walk around the house with him just to get small chores done!

I don't believe in the TV being a baby-sitter but the Baby Einstein DVD's were a miracle! Put the DVD on, placed him in his bouncer and he would be content watching the colors and the music while I got some work done around the house.

It actually eased his "wanting to be held all the time" situation. Plus, he's almost two (23 months) now and knows his colors and shapes!

Answer 8

She's communicating to you how to get what she wants. Unfortunately for her the only way she can do that is by crying or fussing.

My advice, leave her be. Let her cry, she has to learn some time that the world doesn't revolve around her. Take this into consideration because the sooner you break her of this the easier it will be to raise her.

She is not in charge (now there' s a difference between sitting in a crappy diaper for 12 hours and trying to manipulate you). And yes babies manipulate, they learn very quickly that if they want a certain result they act a certain way.

Remember she's normal, but don't give in.

Answer 9

First - Professor, she cant beat her baby. Dont be such a dork!
I say that she is testing you. Thats what my daughter did to me. She is 10 months now but she has a little attitude on her rightnow that can get out of hand. Babies are very smart. Just be patient with her. Sit her in the swing or bouncer and sit next to her for a while. She will fuss and cry for a little but just let her because if you take her out as soon as she starts whinning and throwing a fitt she knows she is going to get her way with things as soon as she behaves this way.

Answer 10

She is manipulating you, and you are letting her do it! If she can wrap you around her little finger at this age, imagine what it will be like in a couple of years! The best piece of advice that I ever got, and didn't listen to, was to stop spoiling my baby. I always thought you could never spoil a baby too much. Now I know otherwise, and I am paying for it now! Start taking the control now, while there is still hope!

Answer 11

she doesn't want to be alone, babies at 5 dont understand object permanance she doesn't know that once u leave her you are coming back in a couple minutes. the best way is to keep her playing close to your work area so if you are in her line of vision she is okay.be patient till she learns how to crawl then she knows that she can follow you , right now she just associated a toy in the swing with 'now i will be left alone', try playing with her when inthe swing, it will take some time