my boyfriend says all the time that he wants to get me pregnant but im not ready for kids . He says that I dont love him because I dont want to have his babies . What should I do ?????
2006-06-13 02:34:46 · 17 answers · asked by Ashley D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The next time he ask you to have his baby, you ask him to MARRY you.
If he loves you enough to want you to be the mother of his child then he should love you enough to marry you.
2006-06-13 06:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ray-Ray 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to get on the pill 1st of all. There is something deeper to this. Maybe he's not as positive about ur relationship as u think. He might think this is a way of making sure u never leave him. But a promise ring can do the same thing. DO NOT LET HIM PRESSURE U. He can walk away at anytime and so can u, with a baby he'll be strolling and u'll be breast feeding and changing diapers. Sometimes u just have to put ur foot down. Tell him no. And him saying u don't love him is like him saying u don't love me if u won't have sex with me. Ask him if he wants someone who is his partner in life or his servant in life?? Because if he wants ur as his partner he needs to accept ur decision not to have children right now. After all u'll be having them not him.
2006-06-13 12:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is easy. Don't get pregnant. It's your choice. If he really wants to make babies, tell him the only way is if you get married and then make kids afterwards. If you don't, you'll risk becoming a single mother with a deadbeat dad and your child will suffer the consequences of it. Children with single parents are five times as likely to commit crimes, become pregnant as teenagers, etc, etc, etc. Put on top of that that you're life will be over. Forget about college or a career. You'll be lucky to make enough money to rise above the poverty level. The additional $20,000 a year is will take to raise your child will drain the life out of you and leave you with no money for your own expenses.
Even if you do make a decent living, automatically you will be disqualified from dating most guys until you're in your 40's.
2006-06-13 10:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by I Like Tacos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone pressure you to do anything you don't want to do...esp get pregnant!! Tell him that you DO love him, but you are just not ready to become a mother yet. Explains that you would like to be older and to be married first before becoming a mother. Try to compromise, and say that in a few years when we are married, we can start having children. If he still pressures you....step back and look at this relationship. Is he always trying to force you to do things you don't want to do?? If so, you might want to get out while you can.
Lots of luck!
2006-06-14 11:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by leah s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let anyone pressure you to do anything you dont want to do...esp get pregnant!! Tell him that you DO love him, but you are just not ready to become a mother yet. Expalin that you would like to be older and to be married first before becoming a mother. Try to compromise, and say that in a few years when we are married, we can start having children. If he still pressures you....step back and look at this relationship. Is he always trying to force you to do things you dont want to do?? If so, you might want to get out while you can.
Lots of luck!
2006-06-13 09:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not ready for children yet. He is not the one that has to be pregnant for 9 months. He is not the one that has to be there all the time. Tell him to stop pressuring you, and if he loved you he would understand. and if that doesnt work tell him when he buys you a house car and a 2k diamond ring then you will have his baby.
2006-06-13 09:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by cajunprincess97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you??? The first thing that you should think about is......"your boyfriend" .........not your husband!!! First you should be thinking about marriage. Are you ready to get married to this guy???? That will be the answer to the baby question to. Tell him that you two can borrow my kids for a couple of days......that should make him quit talking like a crazy fool!!!!!!
2006-06-13 12:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by ajcaruso22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pregnant,if yo not ready to be a mother.Having a baby is one thing and being ready to be a mother is another.The child will need yo love,affection.But you will neva really give that,if yo not ready.Good luck.
2006-06-14 04:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by qn beda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you do love him and that your not ready to have a baby with him yet sit down and talk to him.
2006-06-13 10:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by irishgalproud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 15 and pregnant. and i wanna tell u dont let no man force u to do anything u dont want to. for real. good luck to you and keep ur head up
2006-06-13 10:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a boyfriend is not real if he tell you " if you love me get pregnant" that is NOT a real bofriend. a real BF is willin to wait until your actually ready to have babies. so if he cant wait and he is pressurin you, then hes not the one for you. leave him because where evere he's headin its gonna lead up to no good.
2006-06-13 13:19:01 · answer #11 · answered by Team Jacob :) ||kiki♥|| 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋