My best friend and I planned a vacations together for our families. We rented a house on a lake for a week. After picking out dates that worked for both we agreed that I would put the deposit on my credit card. I gave her a copy of tentant contract. My friend canceled. Her reasons were her nephew's graduation party, her daughter's dance class and her work. The house is only about an hour to an hour and half from our homes. My husband and I were unable to afford the vacation home on our own and were forced to forfiet the $800 deposit. Should the other couple reimburse us?
2006-06-13 02:30:55 · 18 answers · asked by michele_fct 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That all depends on how important the friendship is to her? I have friends that wouldn't think twice about disappointing me or causing me to lose money. I need to reevaluate my friends too. I guess she doesn't really have to pay your back unless there was a contract with her signature and you take her to small claims court. Uncontrollable things do happen to everyone at sometime or another. But in this case it sounds to me like she is not a very good friend and probably didn't want to go at all. Lack of conscious, no loyalty, and maybe all wrapped in herself? She should have never let you think she could even go at all. She knew along she had all those things holding her back. You may have lost your $800.00 and it will hurt your pocket book and your pride even worse. Use it as an expensive lesson that will definitely make you think twice about trusting so called friends and being so gullible that people can take advantage of you or get you in these situations . I mean it's a lot of money, but you can survive that. Take pride in yourself knowing you would never do that to anyone.
2006-06-13 02:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 13⤊ 3⤋
Umm, YES!
And ANY attempt of hers to claim she didn't know what the deal was cannot be considered anything other than terribly poor taste and denial.
SO MANY families these days are attempting to appear wealthier than they are and try to live FAR outside their means-- refer to Oprah's "Debt Diet", an amazing short series on what's really going on inside America's finances.
It's a pretty good guess that she realized that she/they cannot afford it and is ashamed -- or her husband said no and she is ashamed -- either way it's probably about shame.
To me, while it's disappointing to not be able to afford SOME things, I'll admit if up front before I let a friend down and cause them financial hardship on something we agreed to pay for together.
You only need to learn this lesson ONCE, and I hope in your case it doesn't destroy the friendship...
Depending on how you deal with this, you may never see a dime of that money from her. If you confront her for the cash, it should be in as quiet and understanding a tone as possible, and you can explain that you suspect that maybe she couldn't afford it at this time and was afraid to tell you-- there might even be tears, but here's the deal: if she's really a friend she will be honest and scramble around to get that money rather than make you suffer for it...
Good Luck to You...
2006-06-13 09:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by fitpro11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow- i think that she should atleast give you half of the money in consideration that she aggreed to all this. as far as the party and dance lessons go, if I was her I would not use that as an excuss- cause it;s no good- she couls have cancelled that ( I could only agree if the guy was graduating from college ) . Anyway she prob. realized that she could not afford to go and instead of being upfront with you, she caused you to lose 800 bucks. If that was the case she could have gave you what she had and made payments on the rest by the time it was to go on the trip. I would like to tell you to just let it go and cut your loses with her, but i think you should atleast try to recoup half of the money.
If that does not work- I think you should take her to small claims court and tell the judge that you had a verbal agreement from her and her family to go on this trip- and try to get back you 400 bucks.
lesson learned- always get it writting, even when dealing with friends.
good luck
2006-06-13 10:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by shalirha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes.... if she was well aware of what u and your husband had to pay from her cancellation then you should make her pay. Her excuse is not valid enough to flake on vacation. I believe that if you try to take the nice road, you will only hurt yourself in the long run a "best friend" wouldn't dump that on you. You should defiantly talk to her about it, and tell her she should have to pay at least half. If not take her to small claims court, when she gets the notice she'll pay, or when you get to court make her pay the whole thing since it was her fault for not being responsible.
I really hate it when friends put you in positions where you have to choose either being their friend and staying quiet or doing/saying what you need to do, friends like that eventually hurt you worse in the long run so your better off standing up to her and risk losing a friend than to silently bask in resentment.
2006-06-13 09:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by summer_dante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at least half if not all of the $800. If she was really a best friend she would've already offered to pay the reimbursement.
2006-06-13 09:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Hold em Rox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! While the fact that she backed out isn't WRONG, just extremely dissappointing, it would be wrong for her not to chip in for the deposit.
Try just sending her a nice note saying: "I'm so sorry it didn't work out, maybe next year! :)" And attaching the deposit slip (saying you owed $800). If she doesn't get it then you may have to call and ask her if she got it.
2006-06-13 09:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by turniper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes after what they promised you they should reimburse you. That was a hardship on you to bear. If not take them to small claims court. At least they should pay you half!
2006-06-13 09:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by kitt4442004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is very tricky. You have to choose between keeping your friend or taking her to small claims court and lose this friend in the process. Think long and hard before deciding either way. Good luck.
2006-06-13 09:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a case for Judge Judy!
But there could be another way to fix this, I don't know. Why don't you ask the credit card company and explain what happened?
2006-06-13 09:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by NIshzhoni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! You speak with them regarding this. If they don't have the money they could work it out some other way at least apologize!! It will be hard for you all to be friends anymore when ever you look at them you will remember this. If you value the friendship try to work this out.
2006-06-13 09:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋