On Father's Day of last year, my husband and I went to a Father's Day dinner at his aunts house. He left with a few of the other dad's to ride their motorcycles while I stayed with the mothers and the children. Unfortunately, I had to work that day and I was rather tired. I went to lay in one of the childrens rooms with a couple of the little children that were already asleep. While I was sleeping, I was awaken by someone rubbing my shoulders and stroking my hair. I thought it was my daughter because she does that from time to time. Well I went to sit up and saw that it was not my daughter, but my husbands cousin. I jumped up and started cursing her because SHE made me rather uncomfortable. She goes on to tell me that she has been wanting me since she first met me, while my husband and I were just dating (12 years ago). She also tried to go on about what she wanted to do to me. This is my hubbys family and I am not comfortable around her. What do I do?
2006-06-13 02:23:19 · 23 answers · asked by totally ignored 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you have been open with her that you do not want her attention. you might let your husband know about it so he is aware of what happened but not push it further. she most likely will leave you alone from now on, give it a chance. if she doesnt, stay away from where she is going to be if she makes you uncomfortable.
2006-06-13 02:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by smiths j 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a real situation, here, and it involves a same-sex sexual relationship. Are you ready for that? Is your husband? He could not compete with a woman, although he could compete if a man were the potential Seducer.
You've made your choice. Tell your husband what happened; and avoid family situations where this other woman would be present. And HOPE that he doesn't feel that it would be OK and interesting if you got involved like this.
Men have fantasies of their own woman with another woman, but in real life it's probably a disaster. Especially where his own cousin would be your lover?!
:-O
2006-06-13 02:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost be honest with your husband and ask him if he knew that his cousin was this way, also since you are uncomfortable around her try to avoid being around her and if you happen to be at a family gathering make sure your husband is with you or someone. Also, you should let his cousin know that although she may be interested in you, you on the other hand are married and not interested.
2006-06-13 02:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by slymugsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn you got the ladies looking for you! First I'd have to say that I'd be very uncomfortable around his family and I definitely wouldn't want her around me and I probably would have slapped the sh** out of her for touching me. All you can do is tell yo husband and make sure too tell her that you don't like women and that if she touches you again that will be that last thing she touches.
2006-06-13 02:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to control this by speaking with said husband's family member. If that person leaves you alone, then just let it go. But if that person continues to make you uncomfortable, tell you husband. Family is very tough to deal with, so try to be as civil as possible and remember that feelings can't be helped but can be controled. That person needs to keep their feelings for you under control.
2006-06-13 02:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U did right to get up and curse her. Tell ure husband about what happend and u both should discuss the apropriate way forward.
After all, it is family u are talking about n its a very sensitive issue.
2006-06-13 02:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by medhruv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you owe it to your husband to be honest with him about what his cousin did. If it made you feel uncomfortable then you have to tell him. His cousin should be avoided at all cost now knowing how she feels about you. Family does not do things like that to hurt someone else within their family. Good Luck!!!!!
2006-06-14 02:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing u do is tell your husband then the 2 of u present a united font and go to her and tell her to knock it off or u will inform the whole family that should do the trick otherwise just punch her lites out
2006-06-13 02:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by bridgettemarie123@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband what is going on maybe there is a way he can speak to her without the hole family getting involved
2006-06-13 02:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so freaky!
That lady should not be around you, or rather, you should not go around her. If you know that she is going to any family gatherings, don't go, make up an excuse for not going. She is sick and you will not be her chosen victim. Stay away from her!
2006-06-13 02:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by NIshzhoni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋