I found out that my fiances mother made nasty comments about her mothers day gift and said that she's not going to get gifts for any one anymore being that they give cheap gift why should she bother. Then she said that at we are not like his ex wife at lease she calls her daughters to find out what she wants.
I wanted to flip out the gift I got her was not cheap and it came from my heart. She really can be an ungreatful bit*h and then to imply that his ex wife gets better gifts is just wrong. Which I really don't understand why she getting her gifts when she wasn't doing it before but thats a battle I don't really care for. I really don't know what to do any advice guys.
2006-06-13 02:17:56 · 16 answers · asked by a_bug 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel this a battle that I cant win I have done some of things you guys have said this women can not just be happy you can give her a thousand dollars and she'll still complain but if I don't get her anything at all she says that we don't care about her. Im just tired of tryin' to please her its honestly pointless.
2006-06-13 02:35:44 · update #1
I would say brush it off.....It just materialistic and just minor words, nothing more. As long as you love your husband no matter what anyone says that's all that counts. As for the ex, it's just her way of being childish and realizing what she had and now regrets it. This is her way of keeping in touch with the mother in law because "misery loves company"
2006-06-14 01:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 23⤊ 4⤋
Oh how incredibley frustrating! What a terrible woman she is. I know it's hard, but I would just be the bigger person and let it go. However, do not get her any other gifts from this point on. That ungrateful witch doesn't deserve it. Unless perhaps you want to get her a card that tells her she can kiss your....well you know!
And if it continues to be a problem, then maybe your fiance should talk to her about how rude and disrespectful she is being to you, although if I know a man, he probably won't. He's probably had to put up with a lot more crap from her in his life, and maybe the two of you both should just keep your distance and leave the relationship to over the phone. Only calling on birthdays and such, and maybe leave the mothers day stuff to him, since she's not your mom.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-13 09:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Carly829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear A_bug:
I think you are making a big deal about this lady. Just ignore what she said and forgive her. Maybe there's something she does not like about you and she wants to express it in a mean way.
But enjoy being with your husband, he is the person you married anyhow. That lady should not make those comments but, like I said, the one who matters the most is your husband. And, for next Mother's Day or for Christmas, just give her a gift certificate, no gift. Some people do not appreciate the personal effort one puts into those gifts we give. Brush it off... your husband is worth it. Make him your priority.
2006-06-13 09:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by NIshzhoni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key here is does you fiancee stood up to his mother and side with you? She can say all she wants. If she is ungrateful ..next time get your fiancee to buy the gift and leave you out of it. If she complain again. Tell her since the last complain you have stop buying her any gifts so she cannot complain about this one since it's from her son not you. Why waste money , time and energy for an ungrateful person?
2006-06-13 09:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is just brush it off. I can remember shopping for weeks for a special Xmas present for my m-in-law and finally found something that I thought was just perfect for her. Well, she opened it and just tossed it on the floor next to the sofa. Broke my heart after all the effort and thought I put into that. Never even got a thank you. Oh well, live and learn. From then on every year she now gets a set of Hanes Her Way sweats from Wal Mart.
2006-06-13 09:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe that GIFTS ARE HER REAL PROBLEM! This was the motive to accuse the peole she doesn't really like! Maybe her real problems are these: no hobbies, staying many hours alone, lack of sex and staff like that. GET OVER IT. If you dare to tell her what you think, the fight between you will be inevitable. Let your fiance know how you feel but DON'T COMPLAINT TO HER MOTHER!
Cool down boy! AND TAKE CARE O F YOUR GIRL! The last thing you should do is to fight: maybe this will lead to a fight between you and your fiance!!!
2006-06-13 09:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRUSH IT OFF!!!!!
People like that you cant please, especially if is an in-law. Since she wants to be so ungrateful, the next time an occasion comes up where you have to get her a gift, dont get her one, and if she has the nerves to ask you where is her gift, just say with a smile, "I gave your gift to someone who would appreciate it."
And let your husbands ex continue to get her gifts, she is just the fool.
2006-06-13 09:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the old bat push your buttons as she has found a way to do it have u ever heard the old saying u can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar well just treat her like she is your fairygodmother and that will drive her crazy because she will have nothing to complain about do it especially well when u have family gatherings that will drive her nuts been there done that it works
2006-06-13 09:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by bridgettemarie123@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is that much of a hateful harridan,her son probably would like to disown her too. My gf mother hates me, and im not about to get her anything. Let you husband do the gift buying from now on.
2006-06-13 09:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by thale138 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm *** her! i hate bitchy mother in laws!!! lol altho ive never been married.....thats 1 reason why!!! it doesnt matter the $$ of something,it matters like u said that u were thinking of them....she does sound like a real *****! must be 1 of those " high mighty's" thinks her sh1t dont stinkkkkkkk plssss! dont sweat it girl.....go on with your life,she's the 1 that has nothing better to do then ***** about a gift!
2006-06-13 09:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by dawnita0322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think this is a problem but remember that is you fiances mother so handle the situation with delicacy
2006-06-13 09:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by Destined2beGreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋