We have been together 11 years, and slowly all the romance has gone. If I say any thing, he just says we are past all that now.
2006-06-13 02:10:58 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get rid of him
2006-06-13 02:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by kelly r 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Take some time to figure out what your husband might love you to do for romance.
Something special and romantic for a guy is not an easy task. Men have very different views of things that are romantic.
Romance doesn’t have to cost you money, but if you want to spend a little money then
buy some flowers and put them in a vase, also put two flowers on your pillows, light a few candles and turn off the lights. Buy some Chinese food to eat and have a nice bottle of wine.
Turn your bathroom into a night of pleasure with candles and flowers and bubble bath.
Have your candle light dinner together while soft music is playing in the background. Enjoy your dinner together open the bottle of chilled wine.
After dinner take him to your bedroom and have candles light there as well and have flowers on the bed and soft music playing . Dance together if you like and let the night be your own. Give him a sensual massage using your favorite massage oil.
Some guys don’t really like this type of romance, so if you have that type in your life then come up with something that is more his style. Taken him to a football or baseball or even a basketball game and show him that you love and care for him and want to make him happy and while making him happy you make yourself happy as well.
After the game take him to a nice Restaurant ( whichever is his favorite). This way you don’t have to worry about cleaning up all night over the preparation of the food.
I hope you will have a great sucess to spice up your relationship.
2006-06-13 02:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by martha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by dating
2006-06-13 02:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not romantic in the same way women are. Like that old joke, the only thing men think about is beer sex and sports. Thats pretty much true.
It's not easy to keep the passion alive over a long period of time. Slowly you become more like brother and sister than husband and wife. Thats just the way it goes.
2006-06-13 02:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never 'past' romance. Romance doesn't have a sell by date stuck to it!
Why don't you take the initiative to prompt him to be more romantic. Buy some sexy underwear, wear a sexy dress and go out somewhere to eat as if it's a date. If you make the effort, trust me, he will enjoy it and be thankful and then he will want to do the same for you.
We can't always expect our men to be as impromptu as we are, or think about holding hands and roses all day. We have to put the image in his head and make him work for it!
2006-06-13 04:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him massages and treat him with love and respect. Hold his hand and spend alot of time. Do things with him that he likes to do. You should not be past all that now ... Is he past all the sex now? If not then you still need to romance. Romance him if he wont you lol. Go out on dates with him and romance the socks off of him! Become his dream queen in and out of bed. Wear some nice perfume and dress sexy and nice for him! Keep his eyes on you and ask him what hairstyle he likes too. Does he like painted toenails and finger nails? Basically make him fall in love with you all over again and spice things up for him!
2006-06-13 02:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be past being romantic? Maybe if you give him a subtle nudge in the right direction it may help. There are so many things you can do to be romantic it's unbelievable. Just have a look on the Internet and hint at one of the ideas. he'll soon catch on. I think.........
2006-06-13 02:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by HiFi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him dinner, (choose his favorite that you can bake in the oven) when he comes home have candles burning all over the house (the bathroom too), his favorite music playing, tub of water waiting with chilled wine & glasses...be wearing only your sexiest lingerie (black bra & thong)... start off slow, give him light kisses as you prepare dinner & pop it in the oven...take a bath together & drink the wine, soap each other, take the initiative, kiss him passionately, touch and taste his body...make love all over the house.
For an added bonus give him a card that expresses how you feel about him.
Next renedezvou....tell him you have a surprise for him....take him outdoors in a secluded area...don't forget your blanket...
As you spend more special adventures together and regain sexual excitement, both of you will look forward to spending more time together with passion and romance.
Remember to smile.
2006-06-13 02:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not romantic, then you can't make him be romantic. If it's not in you, then it's not in you. Sometimes it takes something drastic to happen before you realize how much a person means to you and you begin to be more romantic. Or if your man isn't romantic with you, he could be romancing someone else!!!! Check it out...
2006-06-13 02:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's important to you it shouldn't be over. He's not married by himself. What you could do is to tell him that maybe he's past all that but for you it's still important. That if you're happy the marriage will be so much better. Then you start to be romantic to him...surprise him with little notes in his briefcase or under his pillow....fix yourself up and take him to a romantic dinner....fix him breakfast in bed.....send him flowers at work.....call him at work and talk a little dirty to him over the phone. Maybe if he sees how much fun and how turned on he gets he'll start doing the same things for you. It's worth a shot....Good Luck!!!
2006-06-13 02:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spring a surprise on him!
l know you shouldn't be the one putting all the effort in but if you make a start, he may follow.
Try a hot air balloon or book tickets to a show he may want to see!
Good Luck x
2006-06-13 02:13:52 · answer #11 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋