There is this man in my life, when we first met he was seperated, now he is back with his girlfriend. But wants to continue seeing me on the side. He knows that I love him and want him to get out of his current situation. Says that he doesn't want to hurt her and he has alot of time and money invested. 8 yrs.and a house. I might add that he is a really great man and this is out of character for him. (cheating)
I don't know what to make of this.
2006-06-13 02:02:47 · 18 answers · asked by smurfette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
coz he is a xxxxxxxxx
2006-06-13 02:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Joanna R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was this guy i worked with and he had the nicest most prettiest girl but he was always putting it about with other women and i could never work out why. I think either he did love her but like the attention from other women and maybe was insecure about himself or that he just wanted the best of both worlds maybe like your guy. Ive know a guy to leave a house, and wife and child for another woman so if he really wanted to be with you he would (sorry) and like someone else said if he can cheat on a partner of 8 years with you he could do the same to you! Be acreful. I think you need to move on and find someone who will give you all the love and attention you need and not put you second best. Hope it works out for you.Good Luck. x
2006-06-13 11:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that you love him and want him resulting in him having control over you. He wont be getting out of his current situation as he is enjoying himself too much with you and his gf. You have to be brave and give him a ultimatum. Has he told you that he loves you? If he loves you enough the money and the house wont mean a thing to him. If he wont chose you then get support from Friends and family and start life without him and find someone who will treat you with the respect you truly deserve. good luck.
2006-06-19 11:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by flymetothemoon279 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that "Real Love" is for the long-term-;- children and family, etc. And we men might justify our straying ways as for the "short term"--just a fling.
Problems come if he says he loves you both. Well, you have to Make Him Choose, knowing that you might either ruin his family, or ruin your own love for him. Somebody's gonna end up very unhappy.
Maybe you should gracefully bow out. He probably is afraid to leave his family. But that's only if he has children. If no children are involved, you have a better chance of winning him over.
Be careful, and Good Luck to All of you involved.
2006-06-13 09:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can cheat on 8 years love and friendship then why can't he cheat on you too, even if he is leaving the first one for you. this kind of man deserves no relationship and he can't be great doing such cheap act. imagine what he do if he knows that you are seeing another man do the same to him. that's disgusting and this is all because of women like you ( sorry but this is the fact) to let men use us and get double pleasure. His got no respect to you and to his first girlfriend bless her. hope you get rid of him soon with some lump some don't let him get away with this.
2006-06-13 09:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by shamshad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u better move on with y'r life,this guy is wasting y'r time.Till when is he goinng to handle this kind of a relationship ?If he needs u then he must be with u .U'll find a great man better than him who won't cheat u.No matter the investments he's talking about if he is serious he would not cheat.
2006-06-13 09:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Shegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because hes a coward and would probably prefer to lie and cheat than to have to deal with the situation that hes gotten himself into. Walk away
2006-06-13 09:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Emma R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is going through a massively confused time in his life...Don't get caught up in it, it's not worth it! Have a bit of respect for yourself and don't let him twist you into thinking what he is doing is right, do you really want to be comeones mistress or sloppy seconds?
2006-06-13 09:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by anna21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've got respect for yourself, you will let him go. How can he be great if he's cheating?
Its up to you if you want to be with him, but you need to know that what goes around comes around, someone might do it to you.
2006-06-13 09:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by sylvie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this man really loves u, why did he get back with her and now he's telling u he doesnt want to hurt her, then its u he's going to hurt so dump him and move on.
2006-06-13 10:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not really love
if a man does love a woman he would not have affair
2006-06-17 16:14:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋