My friend, her husband and their 2 daughters came for a visit. They traveled 180 miles, spent a total of 3 days, didn't supply any of their own food, personal needs items, etc. .He was drinking heavy .And they were constantly fighting and argueing, and he got so drunk he was beligerent blaming his alcohol problem on his 11 year old step daughter. I took 3 days of this before I gave him the choice of no drinking in my home or leave. He got real nasty and started cursing at me so I told him I was calling the police to ask him to leave, they left and went home but left the oldest child with me for 2 weeks,because she wanted to stay, should I call her real father and tell him how his child is forced to live or leave it alone? I'm half tempted to call child protective services on them I saw things I did not like. Cruel treatment, emotional abuse and physical neglect....I could use some advice....
2006-06-13 01:54:06 · 7 answers · asked by shellkate1244 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friend makes excuses for him and enables his drinking by giving him money. Neither one of them work, he collects VA and she is on Social security and welfare. It is a very disfunctional situation and I feel the children deserve better
2006-06-13 02:09:23 · update #1
thank you all for trying to help.
2006-06-13 02:35:22 · update #2
Call the real father, child services, and welfare enforcement. This family is one deranged group and EVERYONE is suffering, especially the children. You were 100% correct in demanding that he stop drinking; it is your home, you make the rules. And it was very kind of you to rescue that girl for two weeks... now take a stand for her!
2006-06-13 02:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Call child services, or the social services or find someone you trust to have the girl. What is your friend doing about all this? That is not a good setting for a child. You definitely have the right to do something if you think she is in danger. You should try and get an intervention together and convince him to join the AA or get anger management or something because there is no reason for that.
2006-06-13 09:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by nintendofreak91788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's no way to grow up, the cycle has got to break sometime, so the sooner the better...unfortunately your gf is already part of the problem and not the solution..I feel calling social services to investigate is the right thing to do.
2006-06-13 09:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should contact the her real father and let him know of the situation. If he does nothing, then contact child protective services in the mother's town. Don't leave it alone. This child's future is at stake.
2006-06-13 09:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by michele_fct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have the right to tell him not to drink in your house...it's your house.
i think you should call people who could help you with this..
2006-06-13 09:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Reese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately CALL!!!!
2006-06-13 09:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS I READ WHAT YOU WROTE....REF; THE KIDS AND HIM DRINKING ECT.....MAKE YOUR CALL....TAKE AND STAND....WE ARE TALKING ABOUT CHILDERN...FOLLOW YOUR HEART.........
2006-06-13 09:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by BUD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋