If he doesn't validate my feling, doesn''t lissent, he yelles at me, shows that I boder him with my "minor emotions", threats to leave me if I tell him something he doesn't like (things that boder me), gets mad because of the way I feel, never sees what he does wrong, blames me for absolutly everything, he lies at me, compares me with an ex of 10 years ago and always puts his friends before me. And when he does lissent, he gets drunk and tells me what he really thinks and it's never nice.
2006-06-13 01:53:07 · 23 answers · asked by Oops 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like this is an incompatible relationship get counseling and find out how to get out of this unhealthy marriage.
2006-06-13 02:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in desperate need of some help.. Look I am a soldier stationed in Iraq right now.. This guy sounds like I need to pay him a visit when I get back.. The best thing for you to do is get the hell out of that relationship.. I am a military police and this is the first of several indicators that this guy's gonna get violent with you at any time now. It's just a matter of time.. Once you are away from him try talking to him on the phone and ask him to get some anger management classes.. If he refuses then it's just not meant to be.. If you want further guidance feel free to e-mail me and I will help you with your problem..
2006-06-13 02:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly understand totally how you feel, and if he seems to be insecure. All the things that he is saying (or yelling) to you might just bother him... even if he will not admit it. If he will not listen to you, tell him that you two should spend some time apart. If he is cheating on you, or you think that he is cheating on you while you two are apart, he doesn't deserve you. I know that you may love him and may want to stay with him more than anything in the world, but if he is not treating you with respect and honor like you are entitled to as a human being, it's not worth it. He is yelling at you and lying to you and giving you a reason to doubt him or his faithfulness, just slap a big fat divorce right in his lap and take him to court. (A little side note: you could try marraige counseling. 90% of all marriages that end in divorce are because of a lack of communication. If he loves you like he vowed he would on your wedding day, he will want counseling for the both of you to save you marriage. Good luck!)
P.S. email me if you wanna talk
2006-06-13 02:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Shan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pretty miserable life to me. You need to pick yourself up from off the ground and decide if this is truly how you want to spend the rest of your life. No one should be treated with lack of respect or love in a relationship. From what I'm reading here you have neither respect or love. Take a good look at your life, are you who you want to be? If not, decide what would truly make you happy and most importantly follow thru and never look back.
2006-06-13 02:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems your husband is emotionally abusive. Thats not good for you. I think you guys need professional help. Its obvious you've tried numerous times to talk to him and he just ends up insulting you. Try talking to him again and mention that you would like to get some counselling. Seems he has major anger issues or is that normal behavior. If he's not open to that idea, could be you need to move on. Often thats not easy but you can't stay in a marriage where your partner insults you at every turn, its emotionally draining as well as physically.
2006-06-13 02:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. This could get serious, if what you say is true he's probably capable of worse than shouting. First of all you need to find someone you can trust. Family is always good for this, then you need to figure out how fast you can get your things together and get out of the house. I believe that with a few drinks under his belt he would be quite dangerous if you accidently said the wrong thing.
2006-06-13 02:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and calmly talk to him and let him know how this really hurts and bothers you. Try to seek counseling for your marriage and see if he is willing to go and talk to some one with you. If he does not like what you have to say or do then let him leave then. You cannot make someone love you and want to stay with you if they dont love and cherish you! He is treating you unfairly and he needs help here too. You are not to blame for everything trust me. It takes two so you both may be to blame for certain things. You both need to learn how to forgive and get past things. He is to blame for how he treats you however and he needs to own up to that and admit it. Talk to his ex wife and see how he treated her and his marriage. You might be surprised to see what she has to say about him!
2006-06-13 01:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt even waste my time and tell you to try and work it out with him cause it already seems as if this guy doesnt even appreciates you. I think you needs to leave him cause he is verbally and emotionally abusing you and that is not good. You needs a man that is there for you and listens to your problema and make you feel that what ever is bothering you is bothering him as well. Take a stand and leave him, you will feel much better knowing that you dint have to deal with his crap anymore.
2006-06-13 02:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's about a few drinks away from pounding you. If everything is put before you, then what reason have you given yourself for staying? Don't bother telling him. It will end up in another argument or worse.
2006-06-13 01:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by bklyn2808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mariana~
Sorry to sound like this but I think that you will do much better if you left him. Stop worrying about what he will think or trying to tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are sick and tried of his hurtful attention towards you. Tell him to go back to his ex that he constantly talks about!!! Instead of wasting your time on him go find a man that will appreciate you for who you are!!!!
Hope this helps.
2006-06-13 02:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by CityG82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does like you it's just that you are yet to understand each other. If there is a need for you to speak to him again do it different from the way you used to. Don't tell him how you feel, SHOW HIM!
2006-06-13 02:12:35 · answer #11 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋