he doesnt have to go away on all of them, he is training to be an accountant - some he needs to go on and others he doesnt learn anything he just goes to get drunk. We only see each other at weekends anyway, but he says he likes going on them. But it quite upsets me and im not sure why??
2006-06-13 01:44:28 · 8 answers · asked by kimmy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand why it upsets you, believe me I do. Maybe you're just being paranoid, maybe he wants to further his career. He could be going on all the courses for all the right reasons.
I mean, don't get me wrong, there are many other reasons why he could be doing this, but I don't want to upset you more than you are already. Why don't you try to make him understand how you feel. Try to make sure it doesn't turn into an argument, though, because then anything might come out, even if it's not meant.
Hope that helps.
2006-06-13 01:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by HiFi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably a small element of insecurity and that's not always a bad thing in a relationship, he might feel the same wether he says so or not.
I spent 2 yrs working away and although it sounded like fun to everone else, i would have rather been at home with friends, girlfriend, etc as you feel like your missing out on everything that's going on.
Make sure the time you have together is extra special but don't get too clingy or he'll feel smothered and start to feel happy about going away.
2006-06-13 08:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your upset because
1. you what him to be with you
2. you don't know what he is up to
if you love this guy let him go, wish him a great time even if it really upsets you,let him think it doesn't bother you, go out with your mates, do anything . NEVER let a fella know it bother you,
if he thinks you are enjoying your self when he isn't there it makes them think what you up to, because at the end of the day if he is up to something it isn't going to stop him doing it wherever he is so stop worrying about it, nothing can make anyone be with anyone unless they what to be with them, SO enjoy the time you spend together when you r together
2006-06-13 08:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm--sounds like he's a bit scared of commitment here--he thinks by going away that he's showing you he doesn't need you--how about you try to be unavailable to him for a while?the next weekend he want s to be with you--invent an excuse that takes you out and away-- it will let you know anyway--either he will see that he misses you when you are gone--or he won't be bothered one bit--in which case it's time maybe to find someone worthy of your company xx
2006-06-13 08:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by cherryb113ml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you don't trust him.
Wait till he's going on one in a nice place and ask him if you can come with him for a vacation. Judge his reaction
2006-06-13 08:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Cherryburst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you miss him and you have little doubts in your mind that he may "play away" whilst away
2006-06-13 08:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by RobStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm
seems like the lad is enjoying himself more than he is with you, sorry to beso frank
2006-06-13 08:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by km 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should follow him and REALLY see what he is up too.
2006-06-13 08:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋