my boyfriend would like me to have a threesome. does he love me, i am bicurious but this may ruine us? should?

Question

i love him and i know that i do overanalyze things but i just always felt if someone loved someone they wouldn't want to see them with someone elese. i thought just talking about it would be good enough. its weird though cause when i say about us doing it, he almost backs down. and i feel very selfconscience. he would not penetrate her, that is my rule. and he agreed i still feel funy cause i don't want him thinking about it all the time i am a romantic and kind of old fashioned type of girl yet i just have this fantacy in a way i dont even want him there it should be for me but maybe his doing this with his xwife with a guy makes me feel alittle insecure cause he and the guy didnt do anything but he said they did have a great time yet they had a horriable 15 years after that both alcoholics this too bothers me i do love him and i want to fulfil my fantacy do you think its possiable to just stop feeling for awhile i mean what if he wants her more than me what if he dont want me anymore

Answer 1

Introducing a relationship to poligamy is frought with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundemental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.

Answer 2

I say no.

I had a threesome a long time ago. It ruined one friendship and damaged the other.

What is the real reason for this? If he says something like "if you love me, you'll do this", it's only for the sex and not any affection he has for you.

Answer 3

Forget the fantasy if you really love him. Don't do it. It's that simple.

Answer 4

do it boi