I need some good advice, no jokers please!
2006-06-12 22:17:43 · 20 answers · asked by pete 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
I'm afraid asking for help from doctors won't help the situation. My friend has had some bad experiences before with these kind of people so he's not gonna be very happy if i get someone else to help him.
2006-06-12 22:45:11 · update #1
Thanks for all the help, and i think it would be best just to listen and be there and just show him that his got alot of mates who's there to support him.
2006-06-13 05:44:45 · update #2
Ah. Pete, the thing is we can *not* change the way a person thinks. No matter how hard we try, we can't turn that button off in their brain that says "I hate myself, and i think that i deserve to live this way". It's not so simple. All you can really do, is to be there and to support them. The rest, is their choice.
You can't *change* a person as much as a woman might want to change *her man*. Think of it that way. You can't live in his shoes. Only he/she knows how to do that. You can't be there everyday, 24 hours breathing their every breath, navigating their every thought. You can just be there for them. Talk to them, take them out if you want to, get them out of their room, make them see the world outside. And if need be, remind them that other people have problems just like them, and sometimes even worse.
There's nothing better than giving them some perspective and showing that other people are worse off than them. Suicide is a state of mind, it's a selfish one. Don't get dragged down, just help where you can, it's all you can do.
2006-06-12 23:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by daria 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It's not always a good idea to tell him how theres people worse off than him that can lead to guilt. It's best not to try any sort of counselling yourself.
Suggest he rings the Samaritans (if you're in the UK that is) 08457 90 90 90. It can be hard to call but they're very good and he can ring up whenever he wants. They even answer emails or texts if he doesn't want to talk. Here's the web address: http://www.samaritans.org.uk/
Give him this website address http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
Listen to him if he wants to talk and just be there if he doesn't.
It's not easy. Some of these things helped me in my depression.
2006-06-13 06:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by Charlottestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally those who talk about it aren't so sure they actually want to.
Most people who are serious just do it any way without telling anyone.
It is hard to know someone is contemplating it, be positive around them, try to help them see the good things they do have. Let them know people care and also try to make them realise how it will affect their family and loved ones.
Most importantly, you need to know in yourself that it is not you who has made this decision if it all goes wrong. You are trying to help!!
2006-06-13 08:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask professionals who are trained to deal with this for instance the Samaritans, thats what they are there for. I would seek their help for a number of reasons, you could accidentally tip the person over the edge and you would have to live with that for the rest of your life, you could in turn become depressed and feel the same suicidal tendencies. PLEASE seek advice, guidance and the help of the professionals to ensure the best outcome for BOTH of you.
2006-06-13 05:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can,t if the person is really going to do it they won't talk about it they will just go and there is not alot anyone can do, if they talk about it then they are looking for help, LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY, DO NOT JUDGE THEM, if they are depressed they need to get medical help, ask them how would there family and friends feel, if they did it, good look
2006-06-13 08:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they reckon people that talk about it never do it...
that might be true...
I've had three male friends that just did it... no discussion...just gone...
if their talking about it a lot...they probably just need a lot of advice, friendship or counselling...they could also just be an attention seeker...its hard to tell...
Tell them that death is a certainty anyway...so why not just see what happens along the way...and don't take the bad stuff so seriously...
good luck...and if they do do it...don't blame yourself...everyone is free to make their own choice in life...ultimately the decision is theirs...
2006-06-13 10:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by avava9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can, if someone doesn't want to live there generally done talking, try reminding them how selfish of an act it is and the misery, pain and heartache they will cause everyone around them.
2006-06-13 05:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by michelleramtulla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh. tis is a tough one.
probably convince them, that wateva it is they're trying to run away from, it wont work by jus taking away their life.
cuz no matter wat, life is gonna be full of challenges, n tats jus how its meant to be, if u tink ur alone in tat certain problem, don be surprised. u'd have a lot of others goin thru the same or mayb much worse. so appreciate wat u hv at the moment n make the fullest out of it.
u as a fren, shud offer to help in wateva way necessary to lighten this burden of theirs.
ok. i hope i helped.
enjoy life as it comes. =)
2006-06-13 05:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by vainybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't refer them to any councillors from the Guantanamo Bay Area. Apparently they suck.
2006-06-13 08:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to listen more than you talk,hope this helps, good luck.
2006-06-13 05:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋