I am trying to get out of a bad marriage. Because I fell sick after one year of our marriage, my husband wanted a divorce. With my parents love and support I would gain my health back. My husband did not support me in anyways. I was very hurt with his behaviour.
The court proceedings are going on. Now I want to start fresh, though I was very bubbly and funloving before my marriage. I am changed person now. I hardly interact with anyone. I want to be happy and make my family happy. Please advise me how do I get over all these odds and live my life happily.
2006-06-12 21:53:24 · 16 answers · asked by applie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOOK trust me you will live again. YOU WILL LOVE again. G0d loves you. i have made mistakes with bf and relationships, BUT that's not the end of the road. LOOK you have to kiss a few toads before you find that true mate. BEEN THERE DONE THAT. Hold your chin up/ OK? hugs star
2006-06-12 22:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you required alot of care and your new husband just could not deal with that. Some people cannot. You had to endure not only a obvious debilitating illness, but a debilitating marriage as well. No wonder you are not bubbly and funloving right now. Give yourself time. Do things that you enjoy. Even small things that make you smile, like a pedicure or potting some flowers. Each night, tell yourself you have done all you can for that day and tomorrow is another day. Turn off the worry at that point. If you feel very depressed, you may want to see your doctor for some meds. But it take times, sometimes years to get to the state of mind you are in and therefore, it can take the same amount of time to feel 110% again.
2006-06-13 05:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my divorce happened around the holidays and now it's been about 3 months since everything was finalized. I can't say how long it takes cause I'm not there yet. But I would have to say time is the only true healer. Going out and trying to have fun does help some. Talking helps, when you start to feel better about yourself the hurt will go away.
2006-06-13 05:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by chupakabra123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had many of those same symtoms when my marriage was failing and divorce was inevitable. I thought it was just me...and I avoided people and didn't want to talk about it. Then one day I started reading about divorce etc and discovered that my feelings were common. It's painful, but you'll get through it. It takes time....more than a year or two.
2006-06-13 04:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. It will take time, and then you will find your old self right there waiting to be the funloving person again. Before you can make your family happy, you have to be happy. Good luck
2006-06-13 05:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start by realizing not all guys are jerks like your ex. But in life its hard to know for sure. We all take our chances with relationships, and sometimes its wonderful, and other times its sh*t.
Your story is very simular to what happened between my parents, with only one exception: my mom's illness never got better. She was never able again able to have a relationship before she passed away. So, things could be worse. At least you get a second chance. Don't be afraid to take it.
2006-06-13 05:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you are feeling better! You have already taken the first step, by realizing your marriage is not a good one. Take your time and heal. Take care of you and in time, you will find someone who will treat you with respect and compassion. You deserve better! Be happy and much luck to you!
2006-06-13 06:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by mjcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals nothing, but it will ease the pain. You need maybe to see a doctor for anti-depressant drug, maybe some counseling. Now, you need to start doing all the things you love, hang with your friends etc..
2006-06-13 05:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to forget the past and all the things that went down.. but it is hard to change urself just try to think of all the positive things in ur life now and not worry about the bad things
2006-06-13 04:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by candie21_js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, get professional counseling to help you sort out your feelings and repair your self-esteem. A change of scenery would help, too, either temporary (vacation) or permanent (moving to another city).
2006-06-13 05:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mizbehavin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋