I am told what to eat,what to wear,can go out only with family.I am in love with family friends son for past 6 years.He loves me too.How do i break news to my family and have them accept my decision?I dont get hit but i do get shoutings,its between family friends so i want to be careful,we both love each other we want to marry but with blessings of family.Please help?
2006-06-12 21:27:40 · 9 answers · asked by moonzsunzstarz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You both LOVE each other so you both will convince your respective parents.After its done you both can meet up propose marriage get engaged come back home.During this time you can have your parents meet eachother families decide on wedding date and get married.You both have EACHOTHER.You both LOVE EACHOTHER.
2006-06-13 11:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If it is this man who tells you what to do -
Get away from him. He is controlling and will only get worse once he has married you. How can you think that he loves you? He wants someone to control.
Please, please, please think what you are doing. No-one has the right to tell you what to wear or when you can go out..... you are an individual and should be free to make your own choices. If you marry this man, you are making a big big mistake.
There will be a man out there who will love you unconditionally and will not try to dominate your life and your choices. Get away from him and experience life first and I am sure that you will see that the world has much better and more respectful men to offer!
If it is your parents that treat you badly -
You need to leave home and get away from your controlling parents. You might just be clinging to this man because he is the first person to show you love. You should experience life before you commit yourself to a relationship. Tell him that you love him as a friend and that it may grow into something more but that you need some time and space away from your parents to discover yourself. He may help you to do this and you may realise that it is true love after all. Just don't rush things sweetie because we only get one chance in this life. If he is the one for you he will understand why you feel this way and be there for you until you are ready!
Good luck!!
2006-06-12 21:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to take step to breakout the news in the family. I know that this is a tough decision, but this will keep your b/f respectul in the family. As there is family freindship so i hope your decision might be acceptable to both.
May God Bless you and give you the right path and sucess to your love.
2006-06-12 21:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Abdul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how difficult it is when it comes to families...remember one thing tis cud either strain the relationships or make it better....U guys need to hang on together.
If ur parents or his parents are looking for alliances u both must crack it to ur parents when both the families are together.This might give u guys the strength to talk together else there might be instances when parents will start feeling otherwise.
U need to handle this very carefully understanding ur parents mood.U guys must be confident that u will be able to handle anything...
all the best
2006-06-12 21:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Adi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you really wanna get married. be sure first that the two of you are matured enough to enter into marriage and that both of you have stable jobs to support your new family. because in that way it will easier to break the news to your family. in case they will disagree with your decision you have a good reason to tell them that it's about time for you to get married. and the best way to tell it to them...is have your bf talk to your parents and have him tell it to them. in that way it is formal and your parents will see how sincere your bf with you. they are just being protective on you because they don't want you to get hurt. so have your bf tell them about your decision.because if it is only you, you won't have any one to turn to in case the "shoutings'" will occur. So talk to your bf about this and have your decision. God bless you
2006-06-12 21:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by [][][][][][][][][] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him break the news to your family and vice versa. Because you are family friends, this might even work,
2006-06-12 21:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by con_cer_earned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could ask your mother if she thinks the young man would be a suitable match for you.
then if you are too scared to say you love him you can just tell her you want to know what type of boy she considers would be a good match.
2006-06-12 21:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE it slow.Do the engagement first. THEN slowly invite them over and it will work out. REMEMBER not every one will be happy at first it just life. But you must do what you need to do. ITS your life too. FOLLOW YOUR HEART
2006-06-12 21:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then just move out of home
2006-06-12 23:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋