Gay, Lesbian, Bi?

Question

Some people who think these are choices don't understand that we are born this way. It is not our choice to be gay, lesbian, or bi. But some people say it's our choice. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

Your sexuality is not a choice; the choice is to accept yourself the way God made you or to hate yourself for the way God made you.

Answer 2

I believe that there are two ways either born or conditioned. Both have been proved scientifically. Either way it doesn't matter people are people and should be happy however they can. How can it be a choice? If you want to be accepted don't you think more people would chose to be straight? And to ask someone to chose between what feels comfortable or what feels right, how could you? Ive always been comfortable with myself and my surroundings, I could not imagine living my life thinking I was wrong. This question wouldn't even be up for discussion if it where accepted. I know either way it is not a choice.

Answer 3

Through a combination of their own narrow-minded inability to understand, a need for an explanation, and some very inarticulate answers from other people, someone came to believe it was a choice and spread the idea around. Or, for a slightly less opinionated view of it, the unfortunate fact the queer people do have the choice of staying in the closet or coming out leads others to misinterpret this as a choice to be queer or be straight. Please understand, I am a FIRM, STALWART, ETERNAL supporter of coming out! However, I believe this plays a role in why some people think it is a choice. Please forgive me if this offended in any way.

Answer 4

Gay/straight/lesiban/bi people are born they way they are. People who say that we(gay/lesiban/bi) are this way because of 'choice' are people who dont want to accept the gay culture, thereofre putting the blame for the way we are on us, by saying it's by choice.

To what 'Gail' said in an answer above me, I dont be with men to feel normal, I fell the exact same way when I'm with a fella or a girl. I can't help that I'm attracted to both sexes, sometimes I wish I wasn't,that I could make my mind up, but I can't and I aint going to apologise for it.

Answer 5

To some extent I do think it is a choice you make. Sure, there are people who could never be straight or gay, but for some people act in a way they are expected to act to fit social norms. For example, I think there would be a lot more people who would be ready to have a gay relationship if society showed complete acceptance of this.

Answer 6

You can't change or pick who you are attracted to. You can however decide to go wtih the feelings or with what "society" accepts. Choosing the later in most cases sets up a miserable existance of denial and psychological troubles. While the former often results in social stigma, familit probles and the like that goes with it. If people in gernear could just do their own thing and let their neighbor do theirs, the work would be a better place...me personally I don't have a problem with anybody's sexual preference....if it makes you happy, it is between consenting adults....then have a ball!!!!

Answer 7

"everything we do is a choice made by ourselves" i believe in that statement fully. all of us were born with male and female hormones. all of us were born with male and female instincts. all of us have masculine and feminine sides. however, not all of us have the same reproductive organs.

some of us choose to be the other sex, while some choose to stay somewhere in the middle.i don't have any problems with this since there are people brave enough to show their different side. men for instance, have a hard time showing their soft spot. it makes them feel stupid, inferior and GAY. i don't see what's wrong with that. showing your true self is the bravest thing you could do.
as for women,they get tough, but their intimacy isn't lost. i don't have much to explain about lesbians since i don't have any lesbian friends yet.

Answer 8

Someone on here said that everything we do is a choice and it is, but they misunderstood the question. Who you are is not a choice, I'm sure in the womb that person did not go hmm, I think I choose to be a boy and BAM it was done. We do not choose to be gay, we choose to act on it. We do not choose to be straight we act on it. Think for one minuet people, who in the hell would want to go through what some gay people have to go through, it would be easier for them to say dame this I'll just be straight.

Answer 9

You can't be born gay/lesbian/bi , you make that choice when your able to , when your mature enough to know what you want. I liked girls at first, but now ....i dont, something changed(cant explain what) and i know you could say that you were raised to like girls and your right but theres no scientific proof that there would be a genetic thing, they'r all suppositions....so my opinion would be: we choose our own way, we make our own destiny

Answer 10

i'm bi and can remember having thoughts about girls and boys, both, even before puberty. i used to just think everyone went through this because is was such a natural thing for me, but growing up baptist, i learned that i shouldn't be thinking of girls, so i supressed it.

as an adult, i've realized that it's not something i can control, but i do have the choice to act upon it or not. i guess being bisexual, i'm lucky that way. i understand that being gay is not nearly as easy because of the social stigma gay ppl unfortunately must carry.

but to answer your question, i don't beleive our attraction to certain ppl whether they be male, female, young, old, rich, poor, honest, theives, purple, or green is our choice. there's just something about that person we are drawn to and it's completely natural. the only choice we have is to act or not to act upon our desires.

Answer 11

Of course it's a choice.*heavy sarcasm* You can choose not to breath and not to eat.*rolling eyes* Come on people, it's who you are attracted to the only choice is do you want this guy or that guy. If your attracted to someone no matter their sex that's who you are attracted to, you can't change that but you can choose to deny yourself. But in the end that cause more problems then it solves.