she said she fell out of love with me and the passion is gone. she has been talking to someone else but ended their friendship when i found out. she told me she cheated on me just to get a divorce but she swore she didn.t every time i talk to her its like i'm talking to a brick wall. when i do something romantic for her she says if you would have done this 4 months ago i would have cried. she says she loves me but not in love with me. all of a sudden it was like the snap of a finger she changed her mind oneday and was crazy about me, then the next day she said she wants a divorce. if you don't understand anything i wrote i'm sorry, their are alot of things going through my mind.
2006-06-12 20:44:14 · 15 answers · asked by DJA T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah these sound like she made up her mind of geting a divorce and she want to move on this happen in marriage you just got to get ready for a divorce and make new plan in your life there are other women out there i know it real hard on you right know but when she leave you it going to take you a few month to get over the feeling you just lost the one you love but it well get better over time. i wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-12 20:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by little ace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you do not want a divorce. By some means if u try to make her change her mind, for the time being it will be ok. but such females have a tendency to repeat this kind of unexplained behaviour and in all probability she will do the same after may be couple of years or even 10 years. At that point of time may be it might be too late for you to start all over. Your life may become hell.
In the interest of your future life i would suggest that u divorce her and settle down with someone else.
2006-06-13 03:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by sunil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend whose husband told her basically the same thing, except it was I never loved you. The day after she moved out, he was running around town with another woman. He moved the new one in before the divorce papers were even filed. It wasn't a sudden snap to her, she's been working up the nerve to do this for awhile. Sorry
2006-06-13 04:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in and out of love may happen in a marriage depending on what you mean by love. She needs you to love her and dwell in the knowledge of her without her making you feel like it. It takes time to rebuild that relationship that has been torn down. You may want ot seek a professional and decide that the marriage is worth saving. Find no fault and hold no grudges. Both of you must be willing to give it your all- until death do you part.
2006-06-13 04:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you are going through all of this...i can speak because i have been there done this. the reason your wife has feel out of love with you is because something was lacking in your marrage and one day she strolled across someone who made her feel the way she wanted to feel. and she ate it up, it then in turn turned into something more. she loves you and wishes you could have fullfilled the things this other one did but you didnt so she resents you for this. the reson she broke this off when you found out is to keep you as a security blanket something to fall back on if the relationship fails. she is probably telling you it is over between them but it really isnt now she is sneaking around. one day she will finally realize she has to make the decision to move on without you and it will be over. but for your sake id go ahead and end it before you get more hurt. i feel really bad for what i had done but it took doing that to find myself and to realize what i needed to be happy and that is probably what she is doing. there is something lacking in your marrage maybe you didnt make her feel good or praise her for the good things but only complain about the bad i dont know the whole situation but if she is to the point she has fell out of love with you enough to stray away from the marrage then im gonna have to say she is fed up. she found the passion that was missing between yall. good luck hun i know what you are going through and im terribly sorry. good luck ill be thinking about you
2006-06-13 05:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by ford_lovergirl_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds to me like a case of a little too late in your department. I do not know what has been going on in your marriage, but if she did say "if you would have done this 4 months ago," it sounds like she has moved on somewhat. it is possible that she is feeling guilty too of what may have occurred outside of the marriage or could have happened and did not.
Four years is a short period of time, is she open to at least considering your marriage. If so, keep working at it.
2006-06-13 04:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately sounds like that she has been sleeping with someone else and when she gets the ok from the other guy thats it is on with her and him she leaves you for cold then when the other guy doesnt want her any more she gets all clingy and lovey to you,dont let her play you for a fool any more as much as this may hurt you this is the perfect example of a cheating woman,she is not your soal mate and definaelt not your true love you need to be free to find her and you will know what love is when you find her
2006-06-13 04:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her. She's no longer in love with you. She wants out, and you should want out too. Find someone who you can be in love with, who will be in love with you too. It's best for both of you. Don't drag this on any longer than necessary. I'm sure it's hard, but in the long run it'll be better for you. You'll find someone else.
2006-06-13 04:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, if she wants a divorce, then give her one, you can't beat a dead horse, I am going thru a divorce right now, and it's not easy, but this one is my third one, all because I married men who weren't meant to be with me, and like your wife, she may not be the one you are meant to be with. There are all kinds of lessons for us to learn by going thru all the crap we go thru with the people we married, and my mama always said( no pun intended, I know that sounded like forest gump moment...lol) you have to go thru a lot of S*h*i*t to get to the flower, and I have found in my experiences, that the marriages I went thru was meant for me to learn to be strong, to stand on my own two feet, and to make me the person I am today, and I have found the flower( my SNAPDRAGON) my life has been missing, and I am so in love with him, I don't ever want to let him go. I sincerely believe it is time to let her go, and find the flower that you are meant to be with, learn from this marriage, not to make the same mistakes in the next relationship, don't be afraid to get married again, because eventually, you will be with the flower that you will die with....That's why they are called SOULMATES. I do wish you all the luck in the world, and will keep you in my prayers.
2006-06-13 04:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by tennessee_cherokee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her to the curb; your better off without in such drama in your life. No one is worth the hassle your describing. Mind games are not a healthy activity in any type of relationship.
2006-06-13 04:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by luvtigger1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋