I am confused abt my life becuse with all these compromises i am sure i am not living my life,But if I take aBOld step of calling this marraige off..its going to affect my kid's life.I am not able to decide.Shud i just go ahead with my life making compromises like this so that My kid won't loose both of us.Or shud I take a bold step?..I am working,and am trying to meet all the expectaions of an Indian husband, in laws,of my kid,My office,friends..
2006-06-12 20:30:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't sound as if you are compromising, you're just doing what you feel is expected of you. You're going to lose who you are if you try to please everyone around you. It is time for you to decide if you want to take a risk and stand up and make your voice and opinion be heard.
2006-06-12 20:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest getting him to come with you to a Marriage counselor and working out the compromises in a more fair manner. You are obviously feeling a lot of stress and like you are giving more than you are receiving. Talk to him about this and if he won't listen give him an ultimatum--Marriage counseling or divorce. My guess is that he will give it a try. There are no guarantees that this will resolve the situation, but at least you will know that you did all that you could do. Good luck to you and whatever you decide know that your child will be better off with a happy mother.
2006-06-13 03:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by explorerkade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you take a drastic step such as divorce try this out instead. Marriage counciling. Your husband quite possibly may have grown up with a completely different set of ideals on how a "proper" marriage takes place. Counciling could hopefully open new doors and make your marriage more meaningful for you both. If he is unwilling to meet you half way or is unconcerned with your wellbeing then perhaps as only a last resort take that bold move.
2006-06-13 03:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Grisheen . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand correctly you are in a marriage that is full of compromises that are unsettling to you but you are concerned that leaving will be harmful to your child. Obviously the compromises are not compromises at all but are a donation you are agreeing to in order to fulfill your child's life. You can not give that much of yourself away and still have enough left for yourself and you feel stifled. Sounds like it is time to stop compromising your values and move on.
2006-06-13 03:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages are carriages. They need someone at the healm. They don't go alone. Oh they might go, but in their own direction. Put some effort in your marriage and the life you once chose. Then if it's not working for you, admit the fact that you are needier then what you thought, accept some nasty language, and go out there and get what you think you are worth.
Old gypsy toast/curse: may you get everything you want and
may you want everything you get.
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-06-22 03:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a bold step!! Live life to the fullest. Don't waste a second of it, or you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Take a chance. Grab life with both hands. Get divorced, you'll be so much happier.
2006-06-13 04:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OBVIOUSLY NOT, if u really want a kid, wait until youll are divorced and settled and then adopt if u need to, do not bring a kid attached to the man u are falling apart from!
alot of women think if they do that the marriage will stay together and things will work out, THATS WRONG! dont do it, take my advice!
2006-06-13 03:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy then everyone around you will be unhappy. This is why you should take that bold step for you and your child will be happy. You don't have to compromise!
2006-06-13 03:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hello!! Marriage is about compromises on both sides. To have a good marriage, you need to work on it every day.
2006-06-13 06:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Pirate's Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking this question on Yahoo, then YES, leave!!!
2006-06-13 03:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋