I only lied to him because he was kind of a 'bad *** and didn't wan to 'corrupt' me or something!! And so I told him, 'no worries' I had been with a few others. Truth was, there was only one, I told him three. Am I horrible?? Should I tell him the truth or let it go. We have been together for 3 years; married for 2. We never slept together until our wedding night (even though everyone thought otherwise!)We have two children together. (one is biologically not his but in our hearts and every other way his)
2006-06-12 19:35:11 · 18 answers · asked by imjustmeandyourjustyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you mean by MUCH bigger??
2006-06-12 20:29:53 · update #1
Let it go. He's not making an issue of it and neither should you. Leave it in the past where it belongs.
2006-06-12 19:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What you did or didn't do before the two of you got together is your business. It would be his business, ONLY if it happened during the time AFTER you were together.
There is no need to dredge up muddy waters, for I assure you the same goes for him, he too has some secrets that have nothing to do with you.
It sounds like you have a nice family, husband and life. Don't do anything stupid and cause you, your hubby and your kids grief.
Honesty is important in a relationship, but to burden him with your baggage is really not necessary here. The same goes with him, why hurt each other. Fact is, you both CHOSE each other now.
Live happy, no regrets..
2006-06-12 19:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to tell him, because it really doesn't matter anymore. It probably really didn't matter much to him then. You're married now, and have been for a while, so it's all water under the bridge now. So, don't worry about it.
No you're not horrible for exaggerating. I've seen plenty of others exaggerate a lot more often, and on far worse subject matter. Don't beat yourself up kid. There are a lot of other issues in an average persons life that deserve far more attention than this one.
2006-06-13 15:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the sensitive question u asked us. U must hve told about ur sex life to ur husband. But its too late to disclose, if u think, ur husband might not get offended, u can carry on now by telling the truth. Or else leave it and continue ur life as being now.
2006-06-12 19:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by raventrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny, Until I read the details I was thinking....... Well, you know! It is very common for a girl to state how few guys she has been with to hide the truth..... Your doing the opposite, If he finds out, I don't think he is gonna be really mad! I would just let it ride.... No reason to throw it out there that I can see.
2006-06-13 03:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's forgivable as long as you weren't lying to him about how many people you slept with while you were dating or after you got married.
Was it bad? Maybe a bit, but it shouldn't be an issue you stress over now that you're married. You've got bigger fish to fry. MUCH bigger fish.
2006-06-12 20:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by AndiGravity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah you women are dificult to understand!!
Let me tell you from a husband's perspective. If he didn't mind that you slept supposedly with three men why shud he mind when it was just one. It hink he is a good man. Don't confuse him. Just let it be. And you don't feel guilty. Its ok to have a sex life.
2006-06-12 19:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by vivek_ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth. say, honey "i lied. i did not include you in the number of men I slept with. so that makes it 101." that will sure bring him a laugh.
kidding aside, not all men care about it anymore.
2006-06-12 19:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by annie_holedo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go dig-gin up the garden Some things are better left buried in the yard....
2006-06-12 19:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live up to your little lie and come on over, i'll be #2 and 3 and 4 and....
2006-06-12 19:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by hankook 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋