I'm 13 and got my gf pregnant and she is leaving it up to me if we should keep it or not. I don't know if I want to or not. And she wants to keep it and if I tell her not to she will listen but will be very sad and I don't want that to happen. She is 15. What do I do?
2006-06-12 19:15:22 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sit down with both her parents and your parents and all together decide the best course of action. No offense, but your too young to be making a decision that could affect not only the rest of your life, but her life too. Seriously... I know you prolly don't want to tell your folks, but honestly, they really do know what's best in these kinds of situations.
2006-06-12 19:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mandie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more than two options available to you. Keeping the baby is an option. Aborting the baby is another option. Allowing the baby to be adopted by a loving family is another option.
You guys have to weigh your options to make the best decision for you and the child. Do you honestly think at 13 and 15 that you have the resources to raise the baby? Will you have the support and help of your family? Are you both prepared to meet the needs of an infant including late night feedings, diaper changes and all of the other chores that come with raising a child? Will you still be able to accomplish the goals and dreams that you both have in life with a baby to take care of at such a young age?
I know that I wouldn't have been able to handle the responsibility at that age. But that doesn't mean that you have to abort the child either. Your girlfriend probably will be sad if she decides to abort the child. It would be a permanent step that couldn't be undone. An adoption leaves room for the child to grow up and possibly meet the two of you some day depending on the terms of the adoption. This idea may be something of a comfort to your girlfiend.
2006-06-13 02:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by laragans757 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can put the baby up for adoptions,one reason is your both to young to beable to take care for this baby...Second,why do you not use some kind of protection!!!! If your going to play be safe....Why should this baby be terminated?? the baby didn't ask to be born,why should it have to be unlimitated...This is a living person,so please adopt the baby out,there lots of couples that can't have children and would love a chance to be loving parents... Before you do anything,think very deep about this.the baby will be your son or daughter,don;t you think the baby has a right to live??? Both of you need to go together and tell your parents and hers want has happen....and you want to either keep this child or adopt the child out...GOOD LUCK TO ALL 3 OF YOU...
Clowmy
2006-06-13 02:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this, but you need to speak with an adult about this matter, preferably your parents or hers, or best, both. This is a matter that will change everyone's life, not just you and your girl-friend... whatever you decide, things will be different. Plus, she is too young to have an induced legal abortion without consent, so this matter has to be taken up with an adult.
I hope that all works out for you, and that you will find a way to talk to your parents, or hers.
2006-06-13 02:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Stef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 15, carrying a baby is not advisable. U hve to discuss with ur g/f and take a good decision collectively.
2006-06-13 02:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by raventrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes. First step is to try to find a way to discuss with your parents and family doctor. You are both not at an age to raise children when your still kids yourselves. You both have your lives ahead of you and raising a child will bring many challenges.
Many people on this site will side one way or the other on the abortion issue. Its not for them to advise their impressionalbe beliefs upon you. You need to involve both of your parents and decide how to overcome this. good luck
2006-06-13 02:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you were older i will say be responsable for your own actions and deal with the baby, i dont support abortion in this kind of situations because you tried to be so adult by being horny and had sex with your gf, you at this age need to still be responsable, but at the same time you are just a kid, you MUST talk to your parents and HER parents too, yes its going to be a Mess but you MUST do this, just remember you can just kill baby just because your afraid to tell your parents.
dont forget to pick your best answer :)
2006-06-13 02:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by america_2008_2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't really a better trial to do sexual game in such young age. However you had try, so it is not a good choice to keep your blood. Discuss with her, there is a very long road that you should go, if you let it born.
2006-06-13 02:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you guys are very young. But the thing is, she's the one who either has to be pregnant, or have an abortion. If i was you, i'd leave the decision up to her, otherwise she may end up resenting you if you want her to have an abortion when she doesn't really want to. Goodluck.
2006-06-13 02:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you can do something is no reason to do it! if she keeps it or not, you will have to tell your folks, they will not be pleased! never have sex with someone you wouldn't want to marry! my best advice is to hit the books hard and study your brains out! you'll need a good job to support her and the kid. you both should have waited til after you got married, or at least til you were both out of high school!
2006-06-13 02:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by NTH IQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋