My Husband is emotionaly closed of in our marriage, he has difficulty expressing himself.?

Question

how can i get him to open up? he was very closed off as a child and its carried over to adulthood.

Answer 1

Be patient with him and love him where he is at! Why was he closed off as a child if i may ask? He may need some counseling and you may too so you can both better understand each other and how you can help love him through this and help him get past it. Just be a good listener and let him know you love him even though he has this problem since childhood. Be a loving and devoted wife and encourage him to talk to you and be a good listener. I am sure he loves you very much he just does not always now how to say it but i am sure he shows you it in a lot of ways. http://www.marriagetoday.org is a great marriage resource site too!

Answer 2

Understanding only goes so far,it sounds like you are trying.Leftovers from childhood can only carry so far into adult life.As you know,they prevent personal growth.I was married to a man with the same problem,and consequently we couldn't grow as a couple....he shut me out to the point that I couldn't remember what we had in common,and I felt coldness,not love.The situation needs to change through counseling or communication or by any means necessary to preserve your marraige and give you the partneship you deserve,GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

You both need to sit down and talk with eachother. He has to learn that hey may need to force the talking out - but as he keeps doing it it will become easier for him to communicate. You should both go to a marriage counselor - the counselor will be able to help your hubby work through his communication problems and also help any other issues your marriage might have.

Answer 4

my husband was the same and he ended up having a affair,after 15 yrs.men are very hard to understand mine still does not open up,he wnt even talk about the affair to me.good luck...