i constantly work long hours and am always at home . when i come i always bring clock out slips in ,usally home in 30 to 45 mins after work but she still accuses me of cheating . worked 118 hours in 10 days with proof and live 30 miles from work yes i cheated years ago but i've always been honest about it and havent since plz help getting fed up!
2006-06-12 18:39:59 · 14 answers · asked by popcorn_samurai 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both you guys need help. She needs to learn to trust you again, and you need to learn how to not work so much and rebuild the love that you guys once had. Just blaming each other and pretending that everything is ok by bringing home time slips, does not build a good relationship.
You need to spend more time alone with each other, Rebuild the romance and friendship, and learn to love each other again. If you can't do it on your own, see a therapist. It's well worth it.
2006-06-12 18:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I really dont know how to answer this without knowing exactly where she is coming from. Bring her home flowers and love on her alot when you get home. Call her from work a couple of times just to let her know that you love her and are thinking about her at work. She is just doubtful. Love her where she is at and see if she is open to going to marrige counselling with you.
2006-06-13 06:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if shes insecure about your relationship and if thats why she assumes you have been cheating, and explain to her that your not gonna get home as soon as you get off work. if she still accuses you of cheating a new relationship may be worth looking into.
2006-06-13 01:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by MissRina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your wife and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you made a mistake and you won't do it again. Tell her how much you love her. She obviously hasn't forgiven you yet - she needs to truly in her heart forgive you and let go these feelings she has because they are causing her to distrust you.
Ask her to go to marriage counseling with you. Marriage counseling will help her to work through the feelings she has, and also put your marriage on the right track.
2006-06-13 01:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't work so much, spend some time with her. Reduce the bills and spending in the household, cause the money doesn't matter if the two of you never see each other. She probably thinks you're screwing around with someone you work with.
2006-06-13 01:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt her heart and she still has not healed from the betrayal. You need to reassure her. While you are gone, do you call her.
Do that for awhile. On your way home, call her from a cell phone,etc. Make her feel secure again.
2006-06-13 05:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cheated, you live with the consequences. sometimes, the relationship never fully heals. obviously she loves you enough to stay with you because if my husband ever cheated, that would be it, no questions asked. you have a good thing going there. i would recommend counseling for the both of you.
2006-06-13 01:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by xtragicallyxbeautifulx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's obviously insecure and doenst appreciate a hardworking man- maybe she's the one cheating and her conscience is guilty. if you work that many hours she sure has lots of time to be out there cheating, have u ever considered that? she dosent desreve u
2006-06-13 01:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard that the accuser is the one doing whatever the accusation is.
2006-06-13 02:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, IF YOU WERE THE ONE WHO CHEATED THEN YOU SHOULD BE THE ONE TO KNOW THAT IT DOES TAKE TIME TO HEAL A MARRIAGE ..... SHE NEEDS TO LET GO YES, BUT BELIEVE ME I KNOW HOW SHE FEELS..... YOU CAN EITHER GO OR STAY AND WORK IT OUT...... THERE ARE STEPS TO GET BACK TO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP, A TRUSTING ONE....... TALK TO HER AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL..... BUT BE CAUTIONED, YOU MAY NOT LIKE WHAT YOU HEAR........ GOD BLESS
2006-06-13 01:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋