you strive to be good. you have people who try to keep you down. Then one day everything changes. No more outbursts. No more feeling sorry for self. Then everything turns to calculation. Do unto others as others do unto you. I want to go to college and be someone. I like to volunteer to help people. I love to give my all to whatever I do. My bad side is I have an "I don't care attitude". This is only on a spur of the moment. If I allow myself to anger...Then it's all or nothing attitude. Jails, institutions or death or no longer a factor. They seem to be a destiny. Of course when i'm no longer in "I don't care attitude", I care again. How selfish is that. I need to know what I can do to resolve this madness. It is stopping me from loving myself. Hence, allowing love from others to be in my life. I need to fix this problem. Or I fear that the end result will be death. Which at times I feel is the best result. No one gets hurt and I don't either. Not after that.
2006-06-12 18:20:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You just require self control. Think about it: nobody but YOU has power over YOU. You do whatever it is that you want to do. NOBODY can stop your thoughts.
Yes, it is DEFINATELY the "I don't care" attitude that gets you in trouble. You have to strive to care even if you are angry. You can learn to direct the raw power you get from anger in constructive ways.
There are SO MANY people today that do exactly what you do (about caring), that it isn't funny. These really are the ones who go to prison. Why? They mess up at the wrong times. OR, they will get angry and hurt someone because they DON'T care.
This is the way I see it: Think of the failure to care as a weakness. Because, let's face it, NOT to care would be the EASY thing to do. You don't like weakness. FORCE yourself to care. Make it a point of strength. Understand that, when all the other people out there go to hurt you, sure, you could hurt them back, OR you could be in control. Have pride in the fact that they would be FORCED to be out of control if someone hurt them. You, however, would not. You would be strong. You would be in control.
Peace,
Jon
2006-06-12 18:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by jonthecomposer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a change is what you need death in never the answer to ones problem my suggestion is if you have the funds any money at all get out of where you are move to a place where you don't have the people who hold you down i was in the same situation about 3 years ago so i ran moved to a little hick town and started over and things got a lot better don't get me wrong it is hard as hell to move somewhere where you don't know anyone but the fact that you don't know people makes it easier to stay on the right track people will say get help from a councilor or find god god will help you spiritually a councilor may help but if you get that one person who truly understands where you are coming from and is there for you that will help the most just knowing you have someone in your corner to be by tour side no matter what that is what you really need if you need to talk u can hit me up with an email at just_4_me_06@yahoo.com and i will try to help you out as much as i can
2006-06-13 01:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by just4 me06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many people, some really close to me who are just like this, they want to break the chain, get out of the getting in trouble all the time mold, only you can do this, you are your own person, you control what you do and what you say and the actions you take, you and God, I'm not gonna go all religious on you and shove God down your thought but really, he can help you, talk to him, pray to him about this as much as possible, read the bible, start going to church, have faith in yourself, you can make things turn around, this is the first step talking about it and admitting it, that's so great, pat yourself on the back for that, don't' give up on what you want, you can do anything if you put your mind to it, you need some self esteem and stay away from the people who put you down, you need to find Friends who support you and give you positive attention, if there putting you down and not being supportive of the new person you wanna be then there not Friends, get rid of them, you need to surround yourself with positive people, meet some people at church, just try it, in the mean time, I'll pray for you and always remember you can do anything you want to do and be anyone you wanna be, have faith in your self, God bless
2006-06-13 01:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may benefit from psychiatric treatment. A counselor could really help you figure out some important things about yourself. You are right that eventually the result could be death. I'm glad you are trying to overcome these problems.
Seek Jesus Christ by reading the Bible and praying. Also go to a church if you don't already. Find one you are comfortable with and go there for worship and fellowship. Ministers can also help you with your problems.
I am telling you to seek Jesus because he is the way to salvation after this life and peace during this life. I have found an incredible peace in him and I know you can, too!
God bless you and your wonderful goals!
2006-06-13 01:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it sounds like you need counseling (which would be a good thing) Maybe ask yourself, "Do I really want to change?" If you really want to change bad enough, your attitude will change. A doctor could prescribe you an antidepressant that might help also, I know that it helps a few friends of mine to stay on course.
I believe in Karma (what goes around, comes around) More people should adopt that belief and life would be easier.
2006-06-13 01:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by karaheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop doing drugs/alcohol and pull up your socks up and get on with the way you want to live your life. drugs/alcohol comes to mind because of the jails/institutions/death line. its a line you will hear at any A.A./12 step program meeting. I don't want to judge you, I want to encourage you. first step is to quit caring about what others think and what has happened before. you have a good attitude if YOU want to change and be better.
only you can do it. remember that it is a universal human experience that life is hard and it takes a real survivor to crawl out of past defeats. it just makes it that much sweeter when you finally start living the way you want to. :)
2006-06-13 01:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think anger management classes would help your 'spur of the moment' issues and second you need to give you life over to the Lord. He can help with all kinds of problems. You also need to find a completely new set of friend to help break the type of cycle you have been in. You have to learn to at least like yourself before you can have a good relationship with others. Find you a nice SMALL church, preferably non-denominational. They are usually the type of people that want to help people regardless of their past circumstances.
2006-06-13 01:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by poppyandbisquitsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I have a cousin who is the same way only he does wrong and keep doing it and doesnt know good. My best advice to you is to get together with the people who mean the most to you and talk to them ask them why are they continuing to down you and ask them if you are doing well if the reason they are downing you because they dont want you to become better than them I know from experience about the downing part my own mom does it to me and she told me yes the reason she continues to down me is because she fears I will be better than her and people will like me more. IN this world it is a DOG EAT DOG situation. Just grab life by the horns and go for it.
2006-06-13 01:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by hotmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you can email me any time at bakesomebread@yahoo.com
i sugest you find a church to go to and talk to the pastor, he might can help you. plan to take a few weeks and talk to the pastor as much as posable, then look for a job, ask the pastor to come with you to the interview and list him as a refrence. there are a lot of things you can do, personaly you sound like some one who could be a councler to kids who have some of the same problems you had. i would look into bob jones university or bju, talk to some one there about your needs and what you want to do with your life. they are good people and i think you can be some one who does great things for the lord, if you let him work in you.
2006-06-13 01:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been through a lot - and the fact that you want to break your vicious cycle is a good start. You need to get into counseling as soon as you can. Counseling/therapy will really help you get on the road you need to be on and help you work through the emotions and thoughts you have.
If you can - try to get away from those people who are negative in your life and who bring you down. You don't need negativity - you need people who are there to uplift you and keep positive.
2006-06-13 01:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋