Is physical attraction important enough to end a marriage? We get along great otherwise. We like the same things, laugh at each others jokes, make decisions together, etc...
2006-06-12 18:17:52 · 19 answers · asked by derbygurl18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I guess it is not. Physical attraction is not the only thing which keeps a marraige going.
2006-06-12 18:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by simba 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the only attraction in many long lasting relationships is based on personality compatibility.
As humans, we are initially attracted to what we perceive as physically attractive.
Considering sex was taboo in the early 1900's until the 1960's, many couples were married based on personality or social expectations.
In some countries, marriages are arranged, however the couples learn to love each other through time.
In this day and age in the US, we are playing a whole new game. Not only do we need to be attractive to our partner, we have to keep them intellectually stimulated as well.
In my opinion, there is a deeper problem going on other than attraction. Based on my impression of your composition, you sound extremely intelligent. You would not have posted this question if this problem was only based on face value. There is an issue you are dealing with that:
1. You are not aware of...
or
2. You fear the issue coming to light...
That is my opinion. I may be wrong, but this question does strike me as though you have a lack of confidence in a oart the relationship. Contact a psychologist and see if you can work it out.
Take care. Give your partner a hug! :)
2006-06-12 18:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by cute_valley_boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing a lot of things right but a few things are missing. Read His Needs Her Needs. The spark you are missing is a result of understanding each other better. He is doing good things for you but you aren't getting everything you need. He may not be getting all he needs, either. Maybe he is the guy who asked a similar question tonight, and is thinking of leaving you, too. This can be turned into a wonderful thing. You will hurt so badly, and feel like such a failure if you can't work this out. Don't hurt yourself like that.
2006-06-12 18:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction is important to a point. Are there things he could improve on to make him more attractive to you - like maybe losing/gaining weight, different hair cut, new wardrobe, etc? I don't think you should end your marriage over it. Odds are you can overcome your attraction problem in time - but it might take some effort on your part.
2006-06-12 18:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be important to some, but are you happy in the relationship? Is your spouse happy?
There's more to most marriages than physical attraction. If it works for you, keep at it!
2006-06-12 18:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by thundernlightning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you LOVE him then of course not you should stay with hI'm, but that's easy for me to say cause im not in your place, but if he is butt *** ugly id be up outta there! no im just joking cause if you find a man that loves you, then you should keep him not a lotta men out there are good and when you get a good man you are considered to be a lucky woman, although you are not attracted to him theres gotta be some qualities about him that attract you to him, they are not necessarily physical, but there is something that drew you to him cause othewise you wouldn't have married him. Or did you just marry him for other reasons???
2006-06-12 18:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if a person is not attrative , but has a great heart and treats you like gold. Than you should stay and if you like alot of things and do things together than you are fine. But if it physical attraction and his body does not work for you. that is stupid and maybe he should leave you. I am happy with my mate and she is great in all ways.
2006-06-12 18:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jason L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Something attracted you to this man once if you married him.....everyone is different as to what attracts them to another person....Only you know deep inside your answer.....It sounds like there is an awful lot of love and respect and fun there..i wouldn't throw marriage away because something has changed..Nothing ever stays the same........If the physical contact is bothering you, he is certainly the one you should talk to about it..good luck.............PS Why would you want to throw away all his other good traits....Or why would you let someone else have him? think about it.
2006-06-12 18:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Love is more deep than physical attraction!
And definately is needed in every marriage!
2006-06-12 18:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks fade with time, but a good solid relationship is something that will last a lifetime.
If you are compatible in every other way, why not try to stick it out?
2006-06-12 18:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bridgette P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋