I can't breath right around my husband
2006-06-12 17:57:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Tell him where to go. I mean it.
Read the fantastic book on the subject:
The Verbally Abusive Relationship
You are being verbally abused. It is all about power, his power over you, making you feel less than him.
Go to http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1558505822/002-4628612-4610440?v=glance&n=283155
Read the reviews for it.
Then read it. It will explain what he is doing and why and what to do about it.
You don't have to let him sap the joy out of your life if you know what is going on and how to handle it.
2006-06-12 18:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 4⤋
My hubby is over critical about everything, and he does know it, and it doesn't matter, you can talk to him till your blue in the face and it won't change, only he can do it himself, or what helped me, is my friend pointed it out one day and he says, oh, guess I should tone it down a bit, and he's been doing better, funny how men will listen better to anyone else on earth than us..lol..I could say something and he'll be like, ya ya whatever, someone else will come along and say the same exact thing and he's like ya, your right...huh....just breath be patient and pray....
2006-06-13 01:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you don't want to leave him, you want to work it out.
I myself am an overly critical spouse. If my husband would remember what I told him and use his head more often, I would not criticize so often. It drives me crazy when he does stupid things, or forgets everything I told him. But I love him -- I just want to clarify to him what is bothering me!
Perhaps there is a way you could improve so that your husband wouldn't need to criticize you. Ask him what it is about you that bothers him so much. Then fix it.
Then tell him what it is about him that bothers YOU so much, so you're even.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 01:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they are overly critical about I guess. I feel that way sometimes too, and then I tend to ignore him. Because sometimes talking to him is like talking to a brick wall.
2006-06-13 00:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in his case i'd give him a taste of his own medicine. don't tell him you're doing it either. just start in on him straight out of the gate and keep it up till he gets upset with you. i say that, because he KNOWS what he's doing, but doesn't quite understand how it makes you feel. i'm willing to bet once he realizes it, he'll back off.
p.s. he's in the mode of "trying to understand" but not knowing. you know what i mean. like hearing about someone elses tragedy and having never experienced it yourself only being able to sympathize but not really feel anything.
2006-06-13 01:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by vanessa w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to them and try to show them how it affects you. If he is overly cricitical it normally means there is some underlining factor. Its not so much what you do or say. He is not happy about something else. Slove that and your problems should be reduced
2006-06-13 01:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by hththted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you should of left him when it started,,,,
2006-06-13 01:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by MissChatea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u heard of OJ simpson?
2006-06-13 01:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by i ask questions alot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. i finally did. nothing is right. nothing ever will be right.
wanna' chat?
2006-06-13 01:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by © 2007. Sammy Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋