What Should I expect from my friends?

Question

I don't know if I am expecting too much, I want them to be as good a friend to me as I am to them.

Opinions Please?

Answer 1

It depends on what kinds of friends they are. For example, there are work friends, or friends based on an activity or sport, then there are friends who are fun to hang out with, and then close friends. Obviously expectations will be higher for people that are closer. You sound like a very generous person, but a work friend is probably not going to be as generous back as a close friend.

But at minimum for ANY kind of friend, you should expect to be treated with respect and honesty. Whatever you tell them should be held in confidence, and they should try to be helpful/want the best for you and never deliberately hurt you in any way. If they don't meet any of that, they are not your friends.

Answer 2

I answered a similar question recently and I will give you the answer I gave them.

But I would like to add I do not think you are expecting too much, they should be as good to you, that in my opinion is not much too ask, but is often in my experience much less than you get from people.

It seems the word friend is to easily spread around these days.

I recall having a converstaion with my cousin, as she started to tell me of her friends the list seemed to get longer and longer, at the end I asked how many of them she could go to if she really had a problem or need to share her deepest thoughts with.

The answer was none.

My idea of a true friend by comparison is maybe idealistic but it is what I hold to and how I am a friend to others.

Talk about anything they need or want to talk about.
Help them without them having to ask me.
Keep the trust they have given me.
Have time for them during the good or bad times.
Look out for them, tell what I trully believe is best, even if thats not what is easiest.
Take care of them if they need me to.
Do not do things to hurt or spite them.
And finally if things are wrong try to make them right.

To me, that is a true friend, you should allways give what you expect in return.

But it is hard to come by that kind of freindship these days, if you do find a friend like that treat them just aswell and you will have a best friend.

I hope you find one like that I never have, mostly people today are self obsessed and any interest they show is superfical. If you have a problem and they turn the conversation into their own issues all the time without it being related to you then forget them, they aren't worth the energy.

All the best

Armand

Answer 3

the same